Re: hurt again!! someone please talk to me!!!!!!!!! mle: Well, I called him.... and I said did she leave for work? he said yeah , so she spent the night.... that "yeah" was all i let him say... I told him to have someone bring the kids to me when i pick them up, that my mom will bring them out to him, and with the exception of school events, hospitals and funerals, I never wanted to see or talk to him again. then I hung up. I know he won't call me and I guess I am grateful for that... I need the strength of will not to call him though...
I can't be there anymore- if I am I will always hope to get back together....
also, I know I won't get anywhere trying to talk it out or find out why he did this to me....
Re: hurt again!! someone please talk to me!!!!!!!!! AMG: Confused,
I know this is painful, but there are people out there who can not be alone. When he started having problems with her, he fell back to you. When it looks as if it could work out between them, he goes back. He obviously never worked through his feelings for you and probably still has feelings for you. But, he also obviously has feeling for her too.
When he was in control and wanting to leave her, he was fine with it. Now, that she has control, he wants her back. I know it is the pot calling the kettle black, but you need to distance yourself from him. He may not be doing it intentionally but he is using you. He put all his guilt and unworked through feelings with you, into there realtionship. Then, he wanted to leave her he put all those unresolved issues with you back into you Plus the new issues he developed with her. Now, he is going to go back to her with even more issues.
He sounds like he needs to be alone and figure out what the hell it is he wants and is feeling, but I dont think he knows how to be alone. In know, its easy to give advice but you need to distance yourself from him, and take care of you. Give yourself time. Give him time too, because he apparently needs to learn some important lessons, and he wont learn them if he knows that he can always count on you to fall back on.
Re: hurt again!! someone please talk to me!!!!!!!!! mle: Unfortunately for me I know all these things... just haven't been able to follow through.... he even knows he needs time alone.... but yeah just can't do it....
sadly I am a co-dependant person too.... and since he's the person I've been with the longest in my life and loved the most... and I haven't even been asked out by anyone... it's hard to let go. up untill now he was still my best (and honestly) my only friend. The only person who I even have to talk to about this is my mom... who even says no don't go back to him. While I know she didn't want to see this (me getting hurt again) her tactics aren't really very supportive.
Re: hurt again!! someone please talk to me!!!!!!!!! thehitekrednek: I have just finished (I hope) going through the same thing. My ex left me to go to another man, then spent the last 10 months keeping me interested just in case. The last thing she said, when I tried to put our family back together was "Just let me get him out of my system". I have started the divorce proceedings, and am now getting on with life. The games will kill your spirit, don't play them. You are not a toy that he can pick up and play with until the next toy comes along. If it worth a shot give it your all, but he has to too. If he won't, don't waste your heart on an illusion.
Spike
Re: hurt again!! someone please talk to me!!!!!!!!! mle: I just thought of something funny...
when she left him - he said he was so hurt, he now understood what he put me through....
stupid jerk.... she's his gf of 8 months... he was my husband of 5 years, he has no idea what I went through.... and he just did it all over again.
I told him once he deserved to be hurt like he hurt me.... i was angry and i didn't really mean it... but now that I'm hurt again I am thinking that - again... she didn't do enough, because 2 days later she is back....
Feel what I feel, date her for 5 years then let her rip your heart out and step on it... you selfish prick
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