Re: hurt again!! someone please talk to me!!!!!!!!! mle: Yes well I told him I can givehim time its the fact that now he's going to stay with her (because she does want to work it out... but she does not know he was planning on dumping her)
We seperated in January 2005 and had little contact after (nothing emotional/physical - ie he was done and moving on...) in fact until this january when we started spending a day a week together....
and its not just a her or me - he lost trust in her before it was even formed and it was evolving with other issues.... then came the feelings for me as well...
and now she's back in his bed....
Trust me I have spend the last 14 months trying to "let go" and haven't... I haven't even dated anyone else....
Re: hurt again!! someone please talk to me!!!!!!!!! newts: They may get back together, however, the things that drove them apart in the first place haven't changed and probably never will. As I said before and I will paste it again is;
"When you have lived with someone it is very hard to just let go immediately - you want to make sure it really is over and not just another mistake made by you. I would give him all the time and space he needs."
Obviously it is not over just yet. Eventually one of them will get fed up and move on permenantly.
Re: hurt again!! someone please talk to me!!!!!!!!! ajw: Seems to me the way to get him to come back to you is to leave......it worked for you,now its working for her,no reason to think it wont happen again if you walk away now.
The point is....is this the kinda guy you want
Re: hurt again!! someone please talk to me!!!!!!!!! angelina: why did you break up? i left my husband but he did not realise what he lost he was two proud but he was an abuser and he did not run after me and his son he cared more about himself anyway if i was you leave him to it for a few months let him do the runnin
Re: hurt again!! someone please talk to me!!!!!!!!! mle: We were having problems for awhile, fighting alot, we have 2 young children (5 and 3 now), both work, and he just didn't see any way to make it work (I didn't see him putting in any effort to make it work) but we both just criticized each other instead of support.... so he finally said get out.
He's great with the kids and even wanted to fight me for custody (at least he cares about them right?)... but if we weren't fighting about the custody we've been getting along great otherwise. and since we started hanging out together, the arguements about the kids (basically him trying to convince me he can take better care of them if they're with him...) stopped too. Everything was going well untill she moved out on tues - and he still sat there yesterday morning telling me he didn't think she'll move back in, and if she does he will try to work with her.... (but he's not sure he wants it ??? LIAR)....
I know he's selfish and only wants her back because she left....if he cared about us both he would tell her the truth about our talks and tell her HE needs time to think.....
I am trying to prepare myself to call him in a little while and tell him not to call me or see me anymore, but to send all correspondence through my mother....She will take the kids outside to him when he picks them up, and he can send someone out with them when I take them home...
I have tried this before but I am weak willed and was not able to do it.....I have never in my life completely written someone off for good.
God help me.
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