Re: we talked again... inebr: Thank you everyone for being so supportive. Round and round we go. ...last night he moved out again *sigh* ...still not there. This really does suck. The good side is that he said I could stay in the apartment and paid rent for August. That was nice ...but kind of the least he could do. I dunno. Before he left we were crying and then we both were kind of laughing becasue it just was so comical ...but sad at the same time. It felt like the first time that he was taking some responsiblity for this.
This time 'round he said that if it were up to him, and for him, he's not going to file for divorce at this point, but then, of course, I had to see for myself.
Crap. Well, I know there are some of you out there who can relate to this siutation of trying and separating and trying and separating. ....
I don't feel so hopeful that it's going to work out as I used to and I don't feel so shot down when things go wrong.... is that numbness or just being realistic??
I called the landlord this morning to let him know I would be there alone and that stbx said I could put my name in the lease and transfer the deposit to me. ...it was the first time dealing with that out there in the real world and I got kind of choked up when talking to him. ...ugh.
inebr
Re: we talked again... atd74: inebr,
You said this in your last post:
"I don't feel so hopeful that it's going to work out as I used to and I don't feel so shot down when things go wrong.... is that numbness or just being realistic??"
I think it's a little of both. After awhile you get numb. You start to accept the rejection because its what you're used to but you're also being realistic. It ok to go full speed ahead with what you feel in your heart but I think you are also allowing your common sense, your brain, your instincts to force you into being realistic - kind of a defense mechanism.
No matter what it is know that what you're feeling is very normal.
