WHY?????????? ga_sunshyne: Why does he even bother???? All of a sudden he is a saved man....hasn't spoken to me in forever unless it was regarding our son...then it was by either e-mail or tect message...doesn't see me. And suddenly since he is a saved man...ever since that transpired, he feels the urge to communicate with me in some shape, form or fashion everyday since!!!
Sure u got to see me the other night at the church....but I was there for our son...to see him baptized..not you. And ure grandma ho felt the need to try to strike up a conversation with me....Cut that short in a nice polite way, but she got the message nonetheless.
I guess what I am wanting here is for someone to help me understand...is this his way of being apologetic for all that he has caused, all that he has put me through???
Why bother??? THe damage is done...don't know that it can ever be undone. Sure I can forgive...but never forget. But in the end....the Lord is the one who gives final forgiveness...not me...
What do u guys make of it???
Re: WHY?????????? nic1025: He sounds self-centered to me....
Re: WHY?????????? ga_sunshyne: Nic ure right...anytime we have ever attempted to discuss "us", reconciliation or any subject that included the both of us....it was always him trying to turn the tables on me. It was my fault...if I had done this, then he wouldn't have done that...if I had chased him down like a dog...he would have known that I loved him....sorry, but I didn't chase him to begin with and I ain't chasin' him or any other man now or ever.
I dunno. I'm just at a loss. I want to be civil...can I be his friend..I dunno. I try to be polite. If we keep it only to our child...we're okay...if we keep conversation about anything other than us...we're okay...but honestly, I really don't want that. He still tells me that he loves me....but on the flip side...I can read him like a book...always have been able to. And I know when he texts me, e-mails me or calls me...it's when his girlfriend's not around. And I can tell...like I said I can read him like a book.
I just feel like he thinks that if he gives me one ounce of hope...keeps the lines of communication open...any false hope on my part that a smidgen of flame still burns for me....then I'll be waiting in the wings. he already thinks that because I haven't dated or gotten serious with anyone.
UGGGHHHHH.............I hate this crap!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Somebody just shoot me now!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Re: WHY?????????? thehitekrednek: Mine pulled the same shit. It keeps the safety net in place. It will drive you insane if you let it. Pull the plug, tell him the only communication you want is concerning your son and thats it. Then stick to it.
Spike
Re: WHY?????????? sheeps: You are all wrong. You are to forgive 70 times 7 times. If he repents, forgive him. Period. Gauge his actions not his words. You need not be a fool, but how foolish would it be to turn your back on a truly repentant man simply because you could not turn the other cheek. Watch, don't listen.
Randy
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