Re: WHY?????????? ga_sunshyne: Ure not gettin the picture here Randy....I have forgiven him. Did I not say that???? And if u'll read a little closer...I am judging by his actions!!!! I know what I see....This is a man I spent 22 years of my life with...more with him than at home with my parents. So I can read him like a book. He's a repentent man...living in sin with the OW that he cheated on me with...but tends to try to keep a shred of hope glimmering in me. I will be his safety net if I allow it. ANytime he hears or thinks that I am interested in someone or someone is showing interest in me....he rears his ugly side...tryies to keep me hanging on.
I do watch, I have watched....and what I have seen is a man who CLAIMS to be truly repentent...but his actions do ot say the same. I could turn the other cheek...but not so as he can just slap the other side, dude.
I was born.....but it damn sure wasn't yesterday!!!!!
Re: WHY?????????? 2be: Forgiveness (to me) is not necessarily letting them back in your life the way it once was. Forgiveness is acceptance of their sin without any pain or anger within yourself. It does NOT mean to think everything is okay again and he can come running back to you. Yes, we are all called to forgive. I have forgiven my stbx for her infidelity, but that does not mean I'm going to accept her back with open arms.
Acceptance and forgiveness do not equal regained trust.
Re: WHY?????????? sheydp: I agree- you can forgive, you can let go of the pain - that does not equate to re-committing your life to someone. You can even continue to love them - without that meaning you need to let them back in your life.
Shey
Re: WHY?????????? ga_sunshyne: Thanks to everyone for your replies.....I will always love him.....and I have forgiven him....but there is just so much that I can't forget. But even if he wanted to come back....I don't know that I could do it. There would always be that trust issue. Until I can get past that and learn to trust again...there would be no way. ANd since we've divorced he has done so many other things to hurt me, intentional or not, I don't know, but it's there...I can't help it. I can only work on it and with time maybe my feelings will change. RIght now, they haven't.
But I appreciate everyone's replies and comments.
Sunshyne
