Re: i am so lonely why do i miss him toolboy: One minute, one hour, one day,one week, one month, one friend @ a time. Go out and enjoy the world, it isn't all bad. Relish in your son and your freedom, don't look back and think what if, look forward and think what you will be tomorrow. A better person for having yourself back again. Go be yourself, exert yourself on the world and it will be a better place to be because of you.
Re: i am so lonely why do i miss him sosad05: Sarah...<<<HUGS>>> Ofcourse, you're hurt and miss him. He was a huge part of your life for a long long time. Its so easy for people on the outside to see the abuse/pain and say be relieved you're done. But, it wasnt all bad. There are the good memories too. You wouldnt have fallen in love with him if there was nothing good. I go through this too. Ive been going through it a lot lately. In fact, I tend to forget the bad. I see his beautiful face and smile and forget it all. But, then I have to remember there is a very evil, manipulative, whore of a man behind the smile.
You have to try to get out and meet friends. This website is awesome. But, you need real human contact too. Do you have work friends? If not, maybe get involved w/ a women's support group or church group. I am fortunate in that I have a large network of girlfriends who have helped get me through this. But, even with that, I still hurt. I still have nights of the darkest deepest loneliness.
[quote"> hes a charmer the new girlfriend will adore him he treated me great at the begining[/quote">
My xh is the same way. He's the most charming guy you'll ever meet. That's how he sucks them in. He's already done it to his new girlfriend. Just remember, it wont last. In the end, you will be the stronger, better person. Do you want your son to grow up like his father?? No, that's why you took the biggest step of your life in leaving him.
Hang in there...it will get easier!! We're all here for you! :-*
Re: i am so lonely why do i miss him newts: You miss him because you are human - unfortunatley when we break up with someone no matter why we will not just lose or close off the feelings and the memories we once shared.
Don't beat yourself up for still missing and caring for your ex, no matter how bad he was or still is. This is just the normal cycle of once being in love with that person.
The only advice I have is think about him, miss him as much as you like - just always remember why he left and don't ever accept him back.
Re: i am so lonely why do i miss him wingnut: I know how you feel. We were married 13 years. I hurt daily, actually constantly. I cry and pound my fist on the ground crying out to God. I get angry and vindictive. Then I want her back even though she is pregnant with another man's baby. It is a horrible cycle of grief that I do not understand. This happens moment to moment. You are not alone. I feel for you and everyone who has gone through this terrible tragedy.
She is the newest one on the page.
www.http://www.bashmyex.net/view_gallery.php
This has brought me joy for the moment.
Re: i am so lonely why do i miss him burningbird: Sarah,
I will tell you I am very direct and to the point. But know it comes with love and a desire to see you whole again.
You have been emotionally abused, possibly so long that it is hard to remember a time when you felt good enough. Right now it is hard to see through the muck of negativity. There may be good thoughts and love poured out to you, but the crap that your husband filled your mind with is like a cancer that is taking over your heart. It is easy for me to say YOU ARE GOOD ENOUGH, but it is harder to believe it.
Sarah,
Have you been to a counselor? It might be helpful. You have to detox from this man. You need a place to go to get the poison out of your system.
Your child needs you. Even if you think you are not good enough, your child sees you as perfect.
Find the fire in your belly!!! See yourself in your minds eye as the beautiful person that you are. Fake it a little until you make it. I will be praying for you.
Peace
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