Re: depended on you JNA: [quote author=iron man (formerly irony) link=topic=27027.msg261118#msg261118 date=1143112989">
Why do I have to love this woman so damned much?
iron man
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Because it is the "Push..."Pull"
It's what it does to the human psyche...
It's called by many names...Emotional Rollercoaster...On/Off
It all spells the same though...
Emotional turmoil for you
I had my ex play it on me for a time but after a while I had to get off the ride...
When I finally gave up it was like an albatross had been lifted off from me
I could actually feel my neck and shoulders again...
Stay Strong Irony
JNA
Once you no longer play her game...
Things will change for you...
For me I decided not to play at all
What you do is totally up to you
Now I understand... your bottom line Irony: I did go over and talk with her and expressed my feelings.. and we came to some understandings..
http://ojar.com/boards/index.php/topic,27027.0.html
Interesting the differences in people who claim to love one another...I loved you enough to get past all the hurt your son caused me, the pushing, shoving, the taking of abusive language right in front of my own son... I forgave him... I have come to love and understand him, not because I condone his behavior at that time by any means, but because he is YOUR son! Your flesh and blood. He has matured in the past four years and I admire the man he is becoming.
On the other hand, there's you.. you tell me you can't deal with my son.. you haven't even given me the courtesy I've given you.. you gave up!
Sure seems kind of selfish if you ask me. So from what I gather from what you told me last night, I was supposed to choose between my son and you...the son whose mother died when he was ten and whose father has had two heart attacks!
Is that what I 'd expect from someone who pledged eternal love?
Hell no! I accepted your children.. where's the return? I guess it's just too tough for you.
Fair?
Hell no!
Guess life ain't fair.
But is sure as hell ain't as tough as you make it out to be.
Someday maybe you'll look back at all this and realize what it was exactly that you threw away, how you just scraped me off your shoe like a wad of used gum. By the time you take another look my way, it may be too late for us.
I feel sorry for the three of us, but mostly for you.
Re: depended on you JNA: No life isn't fair
But you can pick a mate that will be...
Take solace in the fact that "you" know it is her loss
Someday she will come to see that too...
Problem for her is you will be with someone else
She'll be going through the same drama with someone else
I've seen my ex quite a few times since the break up and I think wow she's good looking...Then I come back to my sense's knowing what a "nightmare" she is to be with...
I know it is repetitive but just give it time...In time you will wonder what you even seen in her...Sometimes we look at beauty skin deep and not at the person inside we are with
No Contact if possible...Words hurt
Hers surely had to hurt you...
A lot of what she is saying is her own guilt she is dumping...IMO
Stay Strong
JNA
Irony wrote: "Too bad.. cause you are losing the greatest love of your life."
Yup...But they don't see that until it is gone...
Then it is way too late...
Get "Strong" so when she changes her mind and wants you back again you
say Not a chance in Hell
