scared to death of dating toolboy: I'm not really ready yet to date, h**l I'm no where near ready. but eventually I will face that situation, that time in my recovery when I will wan't to date. I want it to be special, not a rebound thing. I need to figure this out long before I start dating. Personally I think I would be a lousy date. I'm not very intersting, akward with conversation, and should I say not very smooth. Not to mention I am not the most attractive man around. Old to boot.
How does someone look around to start dating? I believe that one day I will stumble into the right person. I like the idea of just getting out in public places and public gatherings but just don't know how to approace that 1 person that attracts me to her without looking like a Dork. Rejection is another issue that I don't think that I could handle.
Re: scared to death of dating jetguy: Tool,
Just walked over and say hi, that normally works and most of time gets a response.
As for not ready to date. I think dating can sometimes help in the healing process. Just don't try and get serious with the first couple of females you start dating. That would be rebounding.
Re: scared to death of dating 2be: An online dating service can be a good thing. I put up a profile on Match because I just wanted to email and chat with some new ladies. I even put in my profile that I was going through a divorce and only wanted friends at this point. All of the ladies that responded back were more than comfortable "just being friends" right now anyway.
It gets me used to chatting with the ladies again, allows me to still heal on my own, and then when the time comes, I will have already known some of these ladies by then. Actually, I already am slightly involved with one, but am taking it slow because I don't want the rebound thing to happen.
With all due respect to jetguy... I have to disagree that the first couple ladies would be rebounding. Rebounding doesn't have anything to do with numbers, it has to do with your emotional and mental state. The very next woman you meet might be a wonderful, fantastic, long-term partner. But YOU have to be emotionally prepared. If you're not, then sure... she will be a rebound.
aNd I do'nt believe in the whole... jsut go out and rebound on a bunch of women to help heal. That's not nice and only spreads the hurt around. If you're not ready to date, tehn don't. Don't force it until you know you can handle another relationship.
I'll get off my soapbox for now. ;)
Re: scared to death of dating fly: [quote author=toolboy link=topic=27030.msg261073#msg261073 date=1143085919">
I'm not really ready yet to date, h**l I'm no where near ready
I am just scrared crapless of it. The whole prospect, idea, thoughts.
How the hell am I going to do it.. ect ect ect
I haven't dated in 10 years.. :-\ I am not even sure I want to, but being an old spinster doesn't sound fun either.
Ask me at any given moment and the rant will be different at this point. :D
Re: scared to death of dating toolboy: Thanks for the input, I don't want to rebound( to much respect for myself). I guess that the best thing to do is heal first and then rebuilt the confidence.
