terrified of marriage now craez: i'm really crappy at knowing where to write. i was reading one guy's story on Tell Your Story Here. he was asking whether love and a deep level of commitment still exists like it used to. or something along those lines. it just made me realize how terrified i am to fall in love with someone (again) and how terrified i am of the "m" word. it's such a HUGE risk! you just can't ever know with 100% certainty if the person you're pledging your undying love to won't stab you in the back! ahhh!!!!!! please tell me i'm not the only one!
i want magic love. maybe i need dr. phil to help me.
Re: terrified of marriage now EssieDotCom: No; you are not alone. I'm scared to love and be loved. i'm afraid i'll find a man that i'm attracted to and he will end up just like my DH. I tend to be attracted to Techies :) (((HUGS)))
Re: terrified of marriage now sandra43230: I am currently dating a divorcee. He is a great guy. WE have been together for a while now and I don't ever think of leaving him. We compliment each other perfectly. Get along famously. Share common interests. I think that he is in the same position as you are. I think that he is afraid of ever being married again. While I can say that I would never intentionally hurt him that doesn't give you a guarantee. I am willing to give him some time, but only so long. I can't waste my life. I will say, which is completely unlike me, that I am a good person. I do everything that I can to show him how much him and his daugher mean to me. I make sure that he knows everyday that I love him. I make sure that he knows that he is important to me. That's the emotional, the more practical is that I have a good job, a good head on my shoulders, am very responsible and the like. We have a GREAT physical relationship too. I guess what I am trying to say without sounding conceited. Would you like to lose someone like me because you are scared? (Sorry if it sounds arrogant....it isn't meant that way)
Re: terrified of marriage now ctrlaltdelete: The thing is, you can't control what the other person does. Honestly, the thought of getting married again scares me too, but that doesn't mean I'm going to rule it out completely. It isn't fair (1) to assume that the problems in my previous marriage were all HIS fault, and (2) to assume the problems in my previous marriage were universal and not at all related to the chemistry (or lack thereof) between two UNIQUE people, and (3) to make the current significant other pay for the sins of the ex.
Are there any guarantees? Nope. There never are. Spouses don't come with a warranty. I would just have to take a leap of faith based on the fact that I learned some lessons from my past and be true to my vows. I would have to realize that the "poorer", "sickness", and "worse" parts of the vows do happen, but in a real commitment you work through them and that they don't always lead to divorce.
You could hide behind your fear, but why?
Re: terrified of marriage now thehitekrednek: Nothing ventured, nothing gained. or if you want a better one:
Faint heart never f**ked fair maiden.
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