Re: Sigh dgrrl: wn, i'm kinda sad to hear this. But if you know she's not the one, then she's not the one. There are reasons why we break up with ppl, even if we dont completely understand it ourselves. And it's better to do it sooner than later.
Re: Sigh Arien: Wow, whatnext, I'm so glad I clicked on this thread! I just posted my own story here , and have been looking for insights into why a relationship just ended. When I saw this, I just stared at the screen for a second:
[quote"> I think my view of love is maybe a bit different than hers. For me, love implies committment and responsibilty. And I'm not ready for that. So I couldn't love her, does that make sense? [/quote">
It makes perfect sense, and I think this may be part of what my guy felt as well. In his case, it isn't due to a divorce - rather the conditions under which he was raised that kept him from ever having to commit to anything. Maybe he's afraid to lose the freedom he's always enjoyed, and thinks an intimate relationship will cause that to happen? I'll think about it. In any case, those lines helped me a little tonight. I hope you find what you seek, even if it takes some exploration and time to get there.
So thanks. :)
Re: Sigh Bea: Sometimes it takes breaking a heart for you to understand what you want and what you need. Take it from someone who's been on the other side of the fence. You probably did her a favour by ending up the relationship before things got more complicated.
And Lumpy's question is good. Maybe you're ready, so good luck finding the right one!
Sigh whatnext: Without getting into too many details, I ended a 3.5 month relationship last night. At the beginning of the relationship I told her many times that I wasn't available for anything serious, long-term or committed. I experienced some infatuation, which I mistook for genuine emotion. That faded, but she started to fall in love with me. I couldn't reciprocate that level of emotion, so I chose to end things, rather than lead her on, and go through the motions myself.
Any thoughts appreciated, especially when it comes to knowing when you're ready to accept love, and how to take things slowly.
Re: Sigh Older Guy: If that's really how you felt...then you did the right thing in not leading her on. Congratulations on that. You should feel good that you did the right thing. :)
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