Re: Sigh Bea: Sometimes it takes breaking a heart for you to understand what you want and what you need. Take it from someone who's been on the other side of the fence. You probably did her a favour by ending up the relationship before things got more complicated.
And Lumpy's question is good. Maybe you're ready, so good luck finding the right one!
Re: Sigh whatnext: Thanks everybody. I certainly don't regret anything that happened, it was an experience I think I'll look back on and feel good about.
avoj, I'm glad this wasn't a close friend, that's for sure.
Plucky, thanks. I know that in my marriage I had some doubts about us, and so part of me is also probably reacting to that.
Lumpy, that's the million dollar question. I never felt she was somebody I would be with long-term, even as things progressed, but I wanted to see what happened, and we were having fun. As she felt more that I was potentially the one, I felt a gulf of emotion between us that I had a hard time reconciling. I don't know if my thoughts and feelings would have developed, but everything moving as it did didn't give me the time I think I'm going to need before I commit again.
At the same time, I'm feeling some grief, the loss of the relationship, and the person. I care for her and about her, but I didn't feel like continuing when there was this "love-gap" (holla if you like Dr. Strangelove). I'm also feeling some guilt about hurting this really great person, who gave me a lot in a little bit of time.
I few of my IRL friends asked me why I couldn't ask her to give me more time, to develop those reciprocal feelings. It honestly never occured to me, and that's the part that makes me question if I'm ready to be in a relationship.
So I think it's both things.
Re: Sigh whatnext: Bea, thanks. I hope you're right.
Re: Sigh Lumpy: [quote author=whatnext link=topic=27098.msg262000#msg262000 date=1143312305">
(holla if you like Dr. Strangelove).
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Peter Sellars is the shiznit. Kubrick too.
Re: Sigh yella: I'm sorry that this didn't work out for you, Leo. I agree with the others that you did the right thing, and I know it's not easy.
I have no idea when you'll be ready for a real relationship. I'm not really ready for one either. I try, but then I destroy, so I can't give advice on that, but I do wish you the best and hope that you can recover from all of this soon. ;)
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