Re: women and "bad boys" Ladies? 2be: Well thanks for your thoughts, OJAR-Ladies. ;) I see where you all are coming from. NRS... you pretty much said exactly what my new (girl)friend told me. That she is just tired of the bad boys and now that she has met "a good one" (her words, not mine LOL) she's freaked because she doestn' know how to handle it. I can tell she is SO nervous about doing something "wrong."
anway... I'd be much more spontaneous if she didn't live 60 miles away and have a daughter. ;)
Re: women and "bad boys" Ladies? hudson: Not until I got divorced and started my short-lived career in the rebound world did I realize how many woman think it's ok for a guy to treat them like sh!t. I was nowhere near being emotionally available yet women would just set themselves up to get hurt. Amazing.
Maybe it's because they've never really been treated all that well by men, that'd be my first guess.
Also, I think some women just want something different, there are so many weak, gutless guys out there just waiting to be p#ssy whipped that I could imagine women get a little tired of it. So they go for a bad boy, a guy that can add a little drama to their life. Women love drama.
Re: women and "bad boys" Ladies? Tarheel: [quote author=alonewith2 (SNB) link=topic=27107.msg262074#msg262074 date=1143335837">
That's exactly what I'm saying. All the nice guys I've met totally lack those two qualities. They may have self confidence when it comes to friends or work, but in the dating scene, they totally lack it. Probably because they feel women don't want a nice guy. Who knows, really? As far as the spontaneity, I haven't seen that much from the nice guys I've met either. IMO, that sort of goes along with the self confidence. Maybe they are too scared to show the spontaneity because they feel the woman will not go along with their idea, and then it'll look dumb. Once again, I'm not an expert, just giving accounts of the nice guys I've met.
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Who might you be talking about here? ::)
I don't get the spontaneity though. I could spontaneously drive down to the beach just as easily as I could spontaneously pull a gun out and shoot you. Spontaneity isn't necessarily a good thing.
[quote author=blazin'heart link=topic=27107.msg262094#msg262094 date=1143338661">
Women love drama.[/quote">
Ain't that tha damn truth? The most accurate three words I've EVER seen posted on this board.
Re: women and "bad boys" Ladies? alonewith2: Um, I'm sorry that you thought I was referring to you. I really wasn't. Besides, I said nice guys that I've met....I've never had the pleasure of meeting you. :-*
And you are so off about the spontaneity thing. It goes along with romance, silly, not death and destruction. But if that's how you view it, maybe you do lack that quality.... ::)
Re: women and "bad boys" Ladies? MikeB: [quote author=Tarheel - AWOL link=topic=27107.msg262114#msg262114 date=1143349139">
[quote author=alonewith2 (SNB) link=topic=27107.msg262074#msg262074 date=1143335837">
That's exactly what I'm saying. All the nice guys I've met totally lack those two qualities. They may have self confidence when it comes to friends or work, but in the dating scene, they totally lack it. Probably because they feel women don't want a nice guy. Who knows, really? As far as the spontaneity, I haven't seen that much from the nice guys I've met either. IMO, that sort of goes along with the self confidence. Maybe they are too scared to show the spontaneity because they feel the woman will not go along with their idea, and then it'll look dumb. Once again, I'm not an expert, just giving accounts of the nice guys I've met.
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Who might you be talking about here? ::)
I don't get the spontaneity though. I could spontaneously drive down to the beach just as easily as I could spontaneously pull a gun out and shoot you. Spontaneity isn't necessarily a good thing.
[quote author=blazin'heart link=topic=27107.msg262094#msg262094 date=1143338661">
Women love drama.[/quote">
Ain't that tha damn truth? The most accurate three words I've EVER seen posted on this board.
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Pull a gun and shoot you? - Wow - nicely put Tarheel!
-Spontaneity isn't necessarily a good thing.... I agree... with all the marriages / long term relationships I've witnessed it's been the same thing... the women were hunting for "adventure" ... a spontaneous guy who keeps them excited etc etc bla bla... but in the end... the one they want to have a family with is the one who appreciates them for what they are (and most of the "adventurous" guys aren't looking for someone to appreciate, but for someone who'll accompany them on their adventures..) who'll stand by them no matter what'll come... and these mostly aren't the guys who go hunting for an adventure.. it are the guys who are looking for reliability... for someone who appreciates them...
As hard as it might sound... I think as a women you've gotta choose between someone who's reliable and someone who's adventurous...
now I'm not saying there aren't men who incorporate both of these qualities... but they are very very rare and mostly (judging from what I've seen) they lose interest very early on...
...and if you are that kind of women who would like to have a family, to have kids and a father who'll be there, who'll care... the adventurous type isn't what you're looking for...
On the other hand... I think most men (in a long term relationship/marriage) ought to try to cater to their spouse's fantasie's more than they do... you know... create a little excitement (there are numerous ways... in the bedroom [size=7pt"> or kitchen etc[/size"> going out... etc...) so that their spouses can have reliability as well as excitement...
IMO -for women- it's all about finding a man(let's not exaggerate political correctness, shall we...) who'll cater to their needs, who's a good husband, a good father... and who'll create this certain excitement nevertheless...
...just my 2 cents though...
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