Re: It Doesn't Seem To Be Getting Better Mazzalee: Well just talked to him again thismorning. We've made a huge mess out of our marriage and really there is no turning back. even he said that he has gone back to his state to many times and that he will just continue to loose everyones respect by going back and forth. And he is right. We do love eachother dearly, but we just can't seem to be together. We're always at eachothers throats and its not healthy. We both try to hang on to something that just isn't right. We don't seem to realize how much we love eachother until its over everytime. I can't have him coming in and out of me and my sons life all the time. It just makes no sense, and I know things will never change even if we got back together. I am just holding on to the hope of him beng the person I want him to be. I seem to love him for what I think he can be, not for what he actually is. And thats not right. theres gotta be someone out there that I can be happy with and not fight with CONSTANTLY. RIGHT? someone tell me I am right. Its just not healthy at all! Nothing about our relationship was, except for the sex. And it can't be based just on that!
Re: It Doesn't Seem To Be Getting Better ih8BeinAlone: Mazzalee -
First off how old are you? Second, I believe that if you give time to your relationship, maybe 6 months to a year with basic contact you both will be in a better position to decide what you want. I think any relationship can be salvagable as long as you both "love" each other. Best of luck!
Re: It Doesn't Seem To Be Getting Better Mazzalee: I am 28, but things just went way too far and its not worth it and I need to realize that. He was abusive. He's broken lots of my things, threatened to kill me if I called the police. Thrown soda in my face. Called me every name in the book. and these are thigns that happened on a daily basis. Not just once in a while. I lived stressed out and crying all the time, then I would be told to get some balls and quit the drama crying. I was hurt constantly and made to feel like I was worthless. At least once a week he would throw his ring at me and say it was over and he didn't give a F@ck about it. So all the time I felt like I ment nothing to him. I am one of those people who thinks I can fix everything and make people all better. and I can't. I used so much of my time loving him and trying to make him better that now that he is gone, I am lost with no one to give all my love too. and that scares me to death.
Re: It Doesn't Seem To Be Getting Better Goddess: Mazz-
Did I not say when you first posted that he would be calling?? Predictable behavior..and he would be sorry..blah blah blah...
You said everything in your post as to WHY you should not be together.. now write that down on a piece of paper 110 times if you have too.
You say you have no one to give all your love too.. Give it to YOURSELF!! That is the most important person in this scenario.. and you will be oh so much better when the next person comes along. I know its scary..I know its hard.. but good sex and unhealthy love are not worth getting abused for.
Take a deep breath and remember. .YOU CAN DO THIS!!
Goddess
Re: It Doesn't Seem To Be Getting Better Mazzalee: Yeah but its not like he calling to come back home. He's calling to make me dwell and continue to tell me he loves me but it just can't be anymore. I don't want to hear that. I don't want to hear that you will loose your families respect and all that. What I want to hear is that he wants to change and come home. But I need to be stonger an realize he won't change and I shouldn't want him to come back home!
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