Re: Strange or wonderful dream? fkunone: You find there is lack of his side of the family's support for the relationship (grandpa in law encouragement). In essence, during a moment of intimacy w/ another woman, you hope that he finds the love he had for you once (the dance) or even the fact that he finds himself without you where he goes, he's still in love with you (the 6 mo departure). You hope to see him emerge from a place that symbolizes family (minivan) OUTSIDE of his grandpa's house (no influence from grandpa). He's your groom again (tux). You want that all over again. A future, a life, time with him.
That's what it means.
Re: Strange or wonderful dream? EssieDotCom: Fkunone; thats for your help.
You're right i do find that there is lack of support from his family. His mom and grandparents have always dictationed most of his life. When we were engaged and I got pregnant they insisted we get married sooner and faster; and during the entire time he's been in the navy he's wanted to get out and they always (always) talk h im into staying in to retire. Coming from a military family, his grandpa was retired army officer. My husband isn't an officer in the navy, but enlisted. and they keep talking him into re-enlisting even though its not really what he wants to do. I just peeves me off that they aren't even thinking of the issues of our 3 children and what him being gone so much does to them and to us and how much he's missed in their lives. They did so they figaure why can't we do it. Well hell I dont want to do it! if he stays in until he retires our daughter who was born at his 5 yr mark in the navy, will be 16. he will have missed every little wonderful mark in her life and she will almost be ready to gradauate high school. so yes they do not show any thought or concern for what this does to us as a family.
Well, its been 7 months since we separted and he's taken this long to realize that he "Screwed up!" and it took him getting into trouble at work, getting extra duty and having more time to think to realize this. So i think what if he never got into this trouble, would he have ever realized it? he leaves in may for 6 months out on the ship, and i'm going to go see him at the end of this month to both help him pack out the house and put things in stroage and get time to sit down and talk with him. I know, and dont ask me how, i just know once i see him, talk to him eye to eye, i'll know if he's blowing smoke up my hind end or not.
With the tux, well, we never had a church wedding or a real wedding at all. in fact he was wearing dress pants and dress top and i had on a skirt. it was just us and a jutice of the peace in California. So i never got to experience that, even though i desire it more than anything.
What i want all over again is for him to be who he was, before his family and the navy took his life over completely, b4 he started to play EQ and spent what little free time he had at home with it instead of the kids and I. I want who he was or he I thought he could be with me; maybe thats not possible. But I guess I will know soon enough if we can work things out.
(((HUGS))) and thank you again :)
