Re: Does Anyone Have a Success Story 2be: My marriage had been struggling for a while, and it really hit the fan around August of last year. Soon after, I found out she was having an emotional and then physical affair. I heard the famous "I love you but I'm not IN love with you words." We tried counceling a bit... but according to her it was too far gone.
We filed for Divorce in January, I moved into my own place in February. I had never been on my own. I went from home, to college with roommates, to my X wife. I was scared silly, and there were many nights wondering if I should go back. many nights of sitting on the bathroom floor crying uncontrollably. But eventually the tears slowed enough that I realized I was getting by... day by day. I started doing things I liked to do, cooking food I liked, getting up when I wanted to. I found myself enjoying my freedom and as the days passed I found that I was growing more confident and self assured.
My family smiled and said: "We're glad to have the old you back... we've missed you for years."
I've been in my own place for two and a half months now, and I LOVE IT. My divorce was final at the end of last month.
It WILL get better... keep your chin up! :)
Re: Does Anyone Have a Success Story Mazzalee: I want to thank everyone for being here for me during this time. I don't know how i would have made it through this week if I didn't find this site. It has been great. I am working on making a very long list of all th emean and nasty things he has done to me in the last 2 1/2 years, and it actually makes me feel better to know I finally ended it. I have my wonderful son to think about and he is all i really care about now. I want to make sur ehe is happy and raised right. I can't believe I am actually going to stop at the store, pick up some eggs and dye and go dye some Easter Eggs with him before I bring him to his fathers tonight for the weekend. (His father is not the one I am divorcing now). and hopefully i will get some cleaning and laundry done in the process since I haven't had much strength to be in the house all week.
Thank you and I will be checking into the site all weekend. You words of support and strength are awsume. Your all great people.
- Mazz
Re: Does Anyone Have a Success Story lilly10: Mazz,
Good for you!! That is what I am talking about when I say keep pushing yourself. It will get easier to be in the house you will see.
Have fun dying the Easter eggs with your son.
(((Hugs)))
Re: Does Anyone Have a Success Story PickingUpThePieces: Hiya Mazz,
Lots of us have been where you are right now. I came to Ojar 7 months ago, devastated. I, too, was left alone in the house and couldn't bear it. I couldn't stand to look at anything, or put it away...couldn't eat, sleep, lost 30 lbs. through the whole process...everyone kept saying, "It'll get better" but I couldn't see an end in sight. It felt like it would take forever...but little by little things DO get better. Time helps...and so does focusing on yourself and being selfish. I now have an apartment I love, buy and cook the food I like, watch whatever shows I like whenever I want, come and go as I please...I am the person I was before I got involved with my husband, but stronger. During my marriage I became a shell of my former self, and now I feel free to be who I am.
It will take time...but soon enough you'll find yourself posting your own "6 months later" or "9 months later" story...Hang in there. :)
Re: Does Anyone Have a Success Story Older Guy: Been there and now out of there. It feels good when you come out and start to experience life again.
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