Okay my friendly ojarians, tell me what you think. hudson: So I met a girl. Each time we hang out, which we've been doing for about a week and a half, we share more and get closer. Since my divorce this is first woman that I have actually felt could be a real contender for something long term and viable. This thing could get serious...if I allow it to.
I've known her for about 4 months but only talked in passing until she approached me about 2 weeks ago and asked if I'd like to carpool with her as she lives near me. From there, the chemistry just happened.
The problem, I've hit a wall. I look back at the mess, the tragedy that my last real relationship became and I just don't want to take that chance again, it simply does not seem worth it...AT ALL. I don't hold relationships in the same esteem as I did before my ex left. I don't value romantic relationships as I once did, I don't see them as a necessity, as I once did.
I'm afraid that I'm not going to give this new woman a fair chance and I really like her a lot. I'm pissed at myself because I know I'm going to cut off this relationship before I've had a chance to really hurt her. Any day now I'm going to cease all contact with her and walk away. If I let her really start to care for me, she'll get hurt. I hate this.
Any advice appreciated.
Re: Okay my friendly ojarians, tell me what you think. flyaway: Wow, blazin' . I know this is almost a conditioned reaction, but could you somehow get past what comes naturally for you, and give it a chance?
This sounds like it could be fun. She doesn't sound like the real intense type...and we all know you're way laid back.... ::)
Please, for the love of all that's good and holy, give this lucky girl a chance!
:) flyaway
Re: Okay my friendly ojarians, tell me what you think. hudson: [quote author=2be link=topic=27538.msg267435#msg267435 date=1144435517">
What you wrote, to me, sounds like you're not ready for a relationship. [/quote">
I think this may be the most accurate assessment of my current situation.
If I was ready, I'd be comfortable allowing someone to get close to me. If I was ready, I wouldn't mind having a woman poke her nose into my business. But at this point, letting someone get close to me just feels like an impending mess.
thanks for the input ya'll.
Re: Okay my friendly ojarians, tell me what you think. gulfcoast: Take it slow.....
You are smarter now...you know what things to look for...
just keep your eyes open and enjoy yourself...
Re: Okay my friendly ojarians, tell me what you think. thehitekrednek: I'm in the same boat Blazin'. I'm gonna give you the advice I got. Open your heart up, wide open. Think with your head, love with your heart. I know what you're feeling, but you deserve to be LOVED! Let it happen man. You have the tools to deal with pain, if it happens. Can you live with the WHAT IF.
Go for it, you deserve it. And she may just be the one.
Spike
