Re: Why single moms get a bad rap Plucky: That's great, 2be. I'm happy for you that you found someone. :)
Maybe I should give a little background on why I wrote this post.... My circle of friends is at least 50% male. Some of them I've known since I was in grade school and I value their input and point of view. Recently, two of them confided in me that they are seeing a pattern in women our age. What they're finding is if they go on a date with someone with kids, the conversation almost immediately turns to seriousness of what "could" be between them and their feelings about marriage, etc. One of my friends said that he could tell VERY quickly that his last date was just looking for a substitute father for her kids. And, before anyone gets his or her undies in a wad, I know that not every one of us is that way. What I'm saying is that men tend to see the one negative in a field of positives and those are the women we're having to distance ourselves from.
What my buddies also said is that the women they're dating are falling "in love" all of the dang time. They were "in love" with the guy they dated before...and the guy before that...etc and so on.
It just bugs me; I guess that because I'm a single mother that I have to fight with that stereotype.
Re: Why single moms get a bad rap 2be: Oh, I hear you. The first thing my new "girlfriend" (should I call her that yet?) said to me was that she was NOT looking for a replacement father or a husband. So I guess I just got one of the ladies that isn't like your male friends have encountered.
THat sucks that you have to put up and battle that stereotype. Guys, to some degree, also have to battle stereotypes. It sucks for everyone.
