she left for no reason broken_saint: basically this is my story in short:
she's 26 and i've been with her for for the past 9 years. we lived together for the past 7 years and moved into another place last year. we also have 2 beautiful dogs. In the 9 years together, we were both very happy with each other. there were basically no harsh "problems" between us except the ups and downs of a relationship but like most couples we argue, fight, reason with each other, we kiss and make up (blush), we work through them together and move on. i've never been so happy. i couldn't ask god for more. she was beautiful, caring, loving, endearing and she had such a great view of everything no matter how bad life got. We always did things together, went out as a couple everywhere, i was proud to be hers and she was very proud to be mine.
Since the end of last year, she went through a whole deal of alot. now during this time i have been kept at work quite abit (till 3am at times) but as always, i tried my hardest to not put anything before her and she would always understand when i had to. (she loved that i would always did call and keep contact with her while i was "out late" doing things, or she'd offer to come by at times and keep me company and she would ... she was my best friend as well). So she then found out that 2 of her family members had cancer ... (her mother and her brother) which devestated her. i did as much as i possibily could to be there for her throughout this time and a member of my family had cancer and died at the end of the year. both of us were going through alot together.
here's where it happened,
in november she lost her job and started a new one at a place she loved. at the end of january she lost that job. the night that she lost her job she said that she was not happy cuase of everything that was happening and decided to go home to take care of her mother. since then, i tried to see her and she was reluctant to see me. she became nasty and bitter to me and started pointing out certain things through out the 9 years of our relationship that hurt her. mainly arguments and fights that we had. there were times in the relationship that i pulled away from her, but so did she but we always made up or talked about it. anyhow, i tried so many times to ask her why she was doing this and she would not give me a straight answer or she would simply say "i dont know". and then she said that she needed time. i was so crushed to see what i thought was our future die before me. i was devastated. with everything that we both just went through the last thing that i would think she'd do was throw me away.... 2 weeks would pass and i called her to tell her that missed/loved her and to see how she was doing and all that really did was upset her. she was so reluctant to talk to me and she ended up telling me that she was not in love with me but that she would ALWAYS LOVE ME??? and that she was sorry for all this??? and that i shouldn't call her for awhile. i asked if it was because of someone new? and she said no "i can't be with someone" "i don't know how to live without you" ... i asked if she wanted me to be someone elses and she said "i don't give a shit". she was so cruel.
that was the last time i spoke to her. i couldnt handle it anymore. i really tried to hang in there thinking that she was just going through some confusion or a crisis or something. but i tried to at least leave things on a good note. i loved her so much with all of my soul. i really thought that she loved me. wouldnt anyone? now, 2 VERY LONG weeks have now passed again and she IM'd me and asked how i was doing and that she wanted to let me know that she was thinking of me and that she will always love me. never regret or forget us and that she never wanted this to happen and that she was sorry. basically saying its done and i feel guilty for how shitty and cruel i treated you. so i said that i was so angry about everything and that she really hurt me and then i told her that i had to go. i didn't want to disrespect her with my anger. (it hurt to sit there and read all that) i can't believe this has happened. i lost her in a blink of an eye!!!!!!!!! i wrote her an email and said that i never understood why... and she replied, "im sorry, me too"
what the hell happened? this is just not her at all. i know she's with no one. i do believe her. how do you deal with this? she never respected me in the end to let me go the right way. instead she was cold and so so so damn cruel to me. i've been so depressed about it and i have no idea where to start putting myself together. please help me...
Re: she left for no reason twine: i don't know how to respond, i can tell you are heartbroken.There isn't much anyone can say that will make you feel anybetter right now but IT WILL GET BETTER it has to. You are at aan all time low right now and the only place to go is up. It isn't easy but with all of us here we can help you, we will listen to you and we will talk to you. Give you a shoulder to use if you need it, I am sorry for u as i am the rest of us that you are here at this site but it does help so keep posting and read other posts....YOUR NEVER ALONE HERE my friend
Re: she left for no reason newts: The only thing I can say and it's not going to alleviate your pain, suffering or confusion.
I have been through death of a family member through cancer and I again been hit with bad news of my step father has terminal cancer.
It turns your world upside down, just the thought that you only have a short time with that person is devastating, I find now matter how much a partner, friend or other family member has tried to console me and make me feel better I can't help than feel life is too short just to waste, I feel as though I have to conquer the world before it's too late.
I don't know if she is feeling this way,and I hope she isn't because it's a very lonely road and the thought of having to cope with other problems in your life just seems too hard.
This is how I feel, as I said I don't know if this is the way she is feeling. I just wanted to share my personal feelings on the matter of death and the realisation of losing someone you love when your not ready for it.
I hope it gives you a little insight.
Re: she left for no reason sheeps: Dude, bad news follows: stop now if you don't want it.
Nobody. and I mean, nobody, leaves a relationship for no reason. She likely just doesn't want to tell you the real reasons, not because it will hurt you, but because it will hurt her. She's being selfish by trying to appear to be caring when she's not.
I'm like a broken record...do not listen to what she says...watch what she does. Actions Scream!
-R
Re: she left for no reason overwhelmed: I'm sorry to say my friend, but Sheeps is right...she didn't leave for "no" reason. There is always a reason. My husband left me because he "just wasn't happy" 4 weeks ago and tonite I finally find out that he is harbouring nasty feelings towards me for stupid little things I had NO idea about. Things like 2 years ago I flew to Halifax to meet my parents while they were on vaction and he couldn't come because he had to go to another province for work. He fully supported the trip at the time, but now tells me that he resents me because I didn't stay home and wait for him. This is a nasty ride so tie a knot in the end of your rope and hang on...and remember everybody else here is feeling (like me) or has felt the same way as your feeling now. They say it does get better.
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