Re: she left for no reason broken_saint: thanks so much or responding, everyone! yes it's such a reality for me right now and you can only imagine how hard it is when you don't know what it's like. i'm trying to move on, get my life in order, focus more on myself with work and whatnot. i figure that since this is what she's capable of after all this time and history then she really is not worth it at any degree. i've been there for her so many times and when i needed her the most she turned around and removed me from her soul before my eyes. it's something that i wouldn't wish for anyone in love. its just not human.
after she went to her mothers, i stayed at our home waiting for her to come back ... and she never came ... soon after, she put me out of our home. i ended up moving in with my mother. it sucks how tuff love can really be. for 9 years i was the luckiest man to be loved by someone the amazing way she did and in 1 minute, lose it all.
i've had my heart broken and i've learned to live on. however, this is the deepest i've ever fallen and i'm not sure how this is going to turn out.
this is indeed the hardest thing i ever had to do. 9 years is a marriage to me, whether you are or not.
has anyone ever had this happen to them? i've never had this happen and i don't know if she'll ever want to come back or at least explain what happened ... for now, i have to now pretend that she never happened.
i hope one day she realizes what she's done. maybe she will but with the way she's been acting out towards me, i doubt it. this is just not her.
i'm just so sad....
Re: she left for no reason sheeps: Sorry, Overwhelmed, but you are in the same boat...
Your ex did no leave you because of something that happened two years ago. That me be when it started, but that's not why it happened now.
Look deeper.
-R
Re: she left for no reason angelina: i think when someone leaves tey must have reasons i left my husband because he was abusive he did not think he was but he sure was and he treated me like a little girl ic ould do nothing .
there is always a raesons why but if i was u ask but be prepared what there gonna say
leaving because your wife went on vacation to see her parents is stupid talk about it do not leave. i haereal reasons to leave maybe yur wife did two ask her stright if she does not want to say forget it she will come round in her own time but you might not be there then
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I'm sorry to say my friend, but Sheeps is right...she didn't leave for "no" reason. There is always a reason. My husband left me because he "just wasn't happy" 4 weeks ago and tonite I finally find out that he is harbouring nasty feelings towards me for stupid little things I had NO idea about. Things like 2 years ago I flew to Halifax to meet my parents while they were on vaction and he couldn't come because he had to go to another province for work. He fully supported the trip at the time, but now tells me that he resents me because I didn't stay home and wait for him. This is a nasty ride so tie a knot in the end of your rope and hang on...and remember everybody else here is feeling (like me) or has felt the same way as your feeling now. They say it does get better.
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i'm so sorry to hear that overwhelmed, but in your case you at least have some decent communication, enough for him to open up some. you're doing something right. unlike me, it seems like she hates me and is very CRUEL about it. And yes actions do speak louder than words. i always one to followed the motto, "never believe anything you hear and only half of what you see."
i will probably never know why this happened, especially since she's not telling me. the more i try to understand it ... the less sleep that i get. i hate having to fight off my emotions all the time and it seems like i'm slipping further and further into this darkness and i hate it. why did she do this to us and why is she so relentless in throwing me away. we were not abusive to each other and that i do know. it surely was not THE perfect relationship, none are. but we were loved by each other perfectly. as of right now, it feels like she died. i miss her and i probably always will.
any advice? do people like her realize or know what they've done? will she come around or regret her decision? do i not ever contact her again?
Re: she left for no reason Spectrum: As someone who has been on both ends of the breakup scene, I can tell you that it hurts whether you're the leaver or the leavee. The main advantage the leavee has is that they have already had the time they needed to withdraw emotionally from the relationship and figure things out, wherease the leavee is stuck getting smacked upside the head with everything at once.
Of course she misses you, and she's going to want to talk to you. She's been with someone for 9 years as well, and deciding to get out of a relationship doesn't necessarily preclude being lonely afterwards.
The hard part is just getting your brain wrapped around the fact that despite that she undoubtedly still loves you and cares about you, it isn't the same as wanting to get back together. The cruelty on her part is just an immature way of keeping it clear to you that despite the fact that she is lonely and misses certain aspects of your relationship, she isn't asking to have it back.
Take one thing from me on faith- the less contact you have with her, the less information you hear about her, the fewer questions you ask about her, the faster you'll get over this.
Good luck,
Spectrum.
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