Re: Game Radar... kev: Hey dre---
You said "might as well go be back with the ex if you are going to take it out on a girl take it out on the one who did you wrong"---
well, first off, there is no going back to the ex, nor do i want to. and i am not taking it out on the new girl, but sheesh...the scars are still there. do you know what i mean? I am not taking anything out, but i think (when i look inside myself) that I am putting up walls that I shouldn't. Heck, i don't even know what to say. Just new feelings that I should know how to deal with and truthfully...i dont.
dgrrl, you said "all i got to say is if you cant let yourself trust someone else again, your ex wins. Not only did she ruin your past, but she's also ruining your future. I dont know about you, but I'll be damned if I let my ex ruin my future."---my ex is always going to be in my future...not going to go into it here, but suffice to say, she is someone that will always be there no matter what I do or how much i want her not to be. as far as trust...well hell, i used to be the most trusting person you would ever meet. after all of this crap...i don't even trust myself.
this fricking thread got too deep! i thought FB was playing games (and i think she still is to a point), but damn...guess I got some stuff going on that could be construed as games too.
damned ojar people...ha ha. thanks. ya'll put some shi+ in perspective.
Re: Game Radar... dgrrl: [quote author=kev link=topic=27587.msg269088#msg269088 date=1144811354">
as far as trust...well hell, i used to be the most trusting person you would ever meet. after all of this crap...i don't even trust myself.
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But the thing is, you have FULL control over this. Remember that! Saying things like "I use to be this, but after all SHE put me through, i cant be that anymore". That's bs and giving away your power! Take responsiblity for your life and realize noone can make you be anything you dont want to be. By ALL means, take your time and if you're not ready to date, then DONT date. But do realize that all the fear and all the anxiety is under your control. If you use to be the most trusting person in the world, and you value that characteristic about yourself (which i think IS a good thing), then why change? Why let our ex's change who we really are? God knows I have enough of my own bad traits than to add any more because my ex is an asshat. Let the destruction of our marriage be a reflection on HIM, not me. I'm not going to change.
And I disagree with jna that it's not a switch. Ok, maybe it's not a switch, but it's more like a remote control. You might need to play around with a few of the buttons before you get it where you want, but in the end you STILL have control over it and if you take your time and watch, you can figure it out.
I'm not trying to be hard with you kev. And I dont even know if you're playing games. I understand where you are coming from. But from what you've written, I dont see your gf playing any games. If she is, then get rid of her. But from your own message of "I dont want anything too serious", if I was her, I wouldnt know how to read that. Are you trying to tell me that you want a serious relationship, but in case things go sour, that's your escape clause? Or are you trying to say that you just want to hook up? If you just want to hang out, and I'm looking for a serious relationship, then I'm going to have to keep my options open, and that means seeing other ppl too. Would you then consider that playing games?
Re: Game Radar... Plucky: kev -
Maybe she's the one that's nervous...I've had more than one person tell me almost word for word what you said in your first post on this thread, and I'm not playing any games. Maybe you should ask her?
Re: Game Radar... dre: Im thinking this is the same girl that tried to hook you up with her friend at first right?...Which she probably was not thinking too straight...When things arent serious with a guy I like, I am alot more open minded, mabey that was the case with her...doesnt reflect on me as to what he will do.
Where excactly are you afraid she is going with these games...do you think she wants to manipulate you for the fun of torturing you?...or do you think she is after money and doesnt really care about you?...Is she trying to make you jealous and go crazy to make you look bad?
Hey I wouldnt go around trusting everyone anyways...most people cant be trusted...look at the news...look at anyones life...trust needs to be earned.
Dont expect this new girl to be perfect either...she has had her share of pain and dissapointment in life too...relize this.
Re: Game Radar... kev: No dre, this is the friend that I was to be hooked up with.
after doing alot of thinking about what everybody has replied...maybe i am the one that is "playing" a game. I guess it is pretty crappy to say "i don't want to be in a relationship, but lets see where this goes". that is a real vague statement. Or maybe not so vague, just stupid.
Truth is, yes, I want to be in a relationship. but, i also don't want to rush into anything.
I don't think she is trying to manipulate or torture me at all, and if she was after money...ha ha ha, guess what...she has to pay off my overdraft charges first! :D
I know that she has had her share of disappointments too, and that would be a reason that i don't want to call it a "relationship" until either one of us knows that is what we want..i don't want it to be a rebound for either one of us.
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