Re: Game Radar... whatnext: From your last post, I don't think she's playing any games. I think she may be trying to win you. She imitated your desire to "just see where things are going". To me that means that she wants to be accepted by you, and it also indicates that she's trying to follow your lead. The clingy-ness makes me think that she's afraid of losing you.
Re: Game Radar... dgrrl: I agree with wn in a way. I dont really understand what she's doing that you consider a game. Perhaps you might be the one giving mixed signals. You told her you dont want anything serious, so what do you expect her to take away with that? What message are you giving to HER?
Post-divorce, I've noticed with myself that I'm pretty flaky. Anything too serious, i freak out and run the opposite direction. Anything where i feel the guy is playing games, i just dont have the tolerance and walk away. I took the pressure off myself a few months ago by not worrying about dating and it helped a lot and I started easing back into just talking with people. Pay attention to your own actions and how it can come off to other people. Yes, you are being "honest", but also appreciate the message behind what we're saying. If you're not ready for anything serious, maybe you're not ready to date or your choosing the wrong mates?
Re: Game Radar... kev: thanks for the female insight dgirrl, and whatnext - not female, but good insight nonetheless.
I don't know. After 13 years of marriage, and not having had too many relationships before that...now that i am older and i got my fricking heart ripped out by my ex...i guess i am just protecting myself and maybe not opening up like i should.
I do want a serious relationship, but this is the first "relationship' after the divorce/separation. other than a couple of one night stands that I wouldn't have wanted to go anywhere, with this one, it does feel different but i am still apprehensive. I guess it is my subconscious guiding my conscious self.
Maybe they are not games at all, I just want honesty and i guess i am putting it on her to share her feelings on where she thinks it will go before I put too much into it and get burned. Maybe that won't happen, but then I keep thinking too, that this is the FIRST relationship after divorce...is it a rebound for me? is that why i don't put much toward it?
I don't know, i guess i am just throwing out random thoughts here...I hope the feelings that i have about another relationship go away. I am ready to date and all of that, i just dont want to wrongly judge someone else and hurt both of us.
anyway...thanks for listening.
Re: Game Radar... JNA: Hey Buddy...
The feelings about the other relationship will "pass" ok
But it will take a time for that too happen...
For now look way down below the post in my Sig
Live by that until she "proves" herself...
You have too...And you never made it this way ok...Someone else did
JNA
That doesn't mean don't give someone a fair chance...
It's just watch what they do as opposed to what is told to you ok
Not all women or men are the same but cover your AZZ anyway...
Re: Game Radar... kev: JNA...I will tell you what, the feelings from the "other" relationship will NEVER pass...PM me sometime, there is a whole story behind that. these fuc**ing wounds will be there till i die. You wouldn't understand unless I told ya.
I am all about giving someone else a chance...I am an outgoing person, for the most part I say what is on my mind, with little to no regrets...honesty is the best policy and all that...but the nagging fricking thing in the back of my mind is...
Am i ever going to get to that point? Do I want to? Everything, fricking everything...negative has happened to me since the breakup with the ex. You name it. Money problems? Got em. she makes twice what I do. Gotta get a place in a couple of weeks at twice what I am paying now? got that one too. can't even hardly pay the bills as it is. Drinking? Don't get me started...to quote part of a song "...drowning in this bottle, trying to make her disappear....". got that one too. Not holding on or being depressed about the whole thing, but still....
anyway, back to what i was saying. with all of the crap that i thought i let go of or didnt even think i had...am i going to give someone else a chance?
I hope so. only time will tell i guess.
For once, i would LOVE for something to go right for me. I did nothing wrong.
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