Re: new stages/phase audi_driver: Here is my advice.......Get your own life.....I dont mean that in a bad way, I'm just suggesting that you fill the void by going out and meeting people. You dont need to look for a relationship. You don't even need to look for a friend. Get involved in some type of activity that involves contact with other humans. Maybe it's something you see other people doing and you thought it would fun to do. For me, it's cycling and when i hop on my bike and ride for 25 to 30 miles there is nothing I am thinking about besides the view, my cadence, and how fast I can go. In May I'll join a group of guys and girls and go riding on the weekends. I'll find guys that want to ride during the week.
The thing is to keep yourself occupied. Find something healthy to do. That way you see results from all your hard work, you feel better about yourself which increases your confidence and keeps yur mind off the BS.
I have found that I get depressed when I am bored or just idle.
Hope this helps!!!! :)
Re: new stages/phase dcjr45: You guys are awesome! Thanks
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thanks!!! Now only if someone else thought that....LOL
have a good and TIME CONSUMING day
Re: new stages/phase lapse of reason: I can totally relate to your feelings. It has been nine months since the separation and the divorce is now final. It really is over.
I am going through the angry stage myself. It really sucks!
I think about him and the OW and I get sick. My stomach hurts, my head hurts and I just want to scream.
All I can tell you is that there is strength in numbers. Your fellow Ojarians know exactly what you feel and are here for you.
Do NOT act on your anger. It never makes you feel better and can actually trigger the other stages (depression, pain, ect...)
Stay strong my friend. We will get through this.
