I don't know what to to do tink0203: I'm not sure where to go from here, my husband left over a stupid fight and now he thinks were dating again. Things have been going great for the past month, he's so very nice and not controlling anymore. I've actually loved this time away from him! In two weeks I finish school and start my new life of independance, because up untill now my life has revolved around him and the kids. There are lots of things that I don't like about the sepparation, like everything is ten times easier for him than me, which is how it's always been, but now he wants to move back in and today I've realized that maybe he hates his apartment so much that he just is faking his new found love for me just to move back in. I think he's completely in denial about the whole separation. I wanted to get legally sepparated and he said no, I can't even bring up the word child support w/out him freaking out, which he pays for me to live anyway so whats the diff, and he's supposed to have the kids on the weekends but he spends every weekend here and makes me take total care care of the kids anyway. He also wants me to pay all of his bills and budget and gives me no access to his bank account so whats changed, he took all of the furniture and lives in a dump now. What do I do, do I let him move back in or force him to stay out? I'm probably not making any sense, but if anyone has advice for me please please I 'd love to hear it.
Re: I don't know what to to do kev: Hi tink. sorry to see you here.
I don't really know what to say to your situation. It sounds like he is scared to death of having to pay you to take care of his kids. It sounds like he probably makes more money than you and is scared that he is not going to have access to his funds if he separates/divorces you.
the fact that he took all of the furniture, you pay all of his bills...it sounds like you are making things easy for him and he is comfortable with that.
Stand up and say WTF? this cannot go on forever, what are your thoughts about everything? He was the one that left, right? So make him stand up and be a man and answer to the fact that he is willing to leave, but he is not willing to do his fair share? Tell him to be a man!
I hate all of the crap that divorce brings, but I really hate the fact of how the people that leave want everything to go frigging peachy for them! Hey, welcome to real life, SOB's! Put me into a situation and then expect me to accomodate your problems? that is bull puckey.
Anyway. My advice is to stand strong, make sure that you are thinking with your head and not your heart, and put everything into perspective.
