Re: Help ! ajw: Freckles....you are answering all your own questions.........she's burnt her bridges with you.....its time u let her know
Re: Help ! AfterMath: Yeah Freckles, I agree with everyone.
Go with your gut. I wouldn't worry so much right now about family, church, police or state.
Worry about you!
Re: Help ! kev: Hi Freckles,
I have read some of your posts, and from what I recall, the stepson sounds like a real piece of work. What i don't recall is...how old is he?
If he is over 18, then he is an adult, and your ex/was an ex needs to practice some tough love and keep him out of the picture. No moving him in, no condoning his violent actions, no condoning his habits...if she wants to come back to you, you need to ask her straight up...WHY? Was it because you treated her right? Is it because she truly does love you and wants to get back what you had?
Or is it because she came to a realization that she needs some sort of constant in her life? a rock if you will?
Either way, if there is a chance for you two, you need to lay out the ground rules and stick by them. You have had enough time to think about you and what you want out of life, so make her step up, be an adult, and give the answers to your questions. if you don't like the answers, then make sure she knows how you stand on things and make her make the decision if she is willing to come back to those standards.
Be strong man. Your stepkid sounded like he was ruling the roost. My stepkid tried that, i booted his ass to the curb. After the separation! No kid, no matter how badass they think they are, is going to mooch off me, live in my house, eat my food, and then turn around and act like an ass. I kicked him out, even though i wasn't living there anymore, and you know what? 8 months later, one of the nicest, most respectful kids you could meet. BE STRONG.
Anyway, best of luck to you on your decision. Make it with your head, not your heart. You tried that once, ya know? the heart can come back into play once the head gets right.
Aftermath said, go with your gut. Instincts are most times reliable. if you have any doubts, just remember you have done these six months on your own, you can do a whole bunch more. For me, i would remember the butcher knife incident, but that is up to you! :D
Re: Help ! Freckles: Stepson just turned 18 this month.
I have decided the answer is No
Even though I Loved her and still have Love for her.
She never gave 100 percent to our marrage.
Most of the time it was 10 Percent.
With her Son Ready to Attack and having to listen to his 4 letter words EVERY TIME he opens his mouth.
And If she came back ALL THE DRUG DEALERS in TOWN would come calling
wanting her WHOLE CHECK agan(500 to 600 a month) For Pot
I Feel like getting a Double Barrel Shotgun and when a Drug dealer calls.
DUH Is Your Wife or Stepson needing Pot agan ? :P
Saying You Bet Bring 100.00 Worth over.
:)
THEN Letting Drug Dealer have it WITH BOTH BARRELS
So I am going to say NO
Then go Throw Up and Go to Bed and Cry all Night
This is a BAD Day
:(
Re: Help ! dre: Poor Freckles...everyone disowned me and still wont talk to me for being with my husband...I was miserable with him...I wont go back either...you can still see the grief I put up with on my face since I was only 20 years old...dont go back...she wants to use you some more...she doesnt care about you Freckles...she just has no shame.
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