I need some words of encouragment..... EssieDotCom: I'm leaving on saturday to go to SC to talk with my husband and to help him finish packing up the house since he's leaving for a 6 month deployment very soon. I'm scared, B/c I do love him, but after waiting 13 months, 6 of which i was with him trying to convience him what he wanted and what he was doing to us and our family, and 7 months here seperated from him, to realize what he's done. and it's taken him this long to say "OH i screwed up!" And in the process b4 this I thought I'd lost him, and was starting to move on with my life. And as much as A aprt of me loves him, another part of me wants to move on. I don't want to fight this anymore.... I was starting to be happy and enjoy my life again. I'm so confused right now; he tells me he loves me, but i don't really hear it in his voice. Or maybe that's just me.. anyone.. any suggestions, any turns, any exeriences you might have had with this that might help me, please :'(
Re: I need some words of encouragment..... yella: Hey Girl,
It's taken him 13 months to say this to you and you don't hear the love in his voice? Well, that says a lot, hun.
There are many factors to this:
1. He's leaving for deployment which messes with the head a bit. He knows he's leaving and won't be seeing you, or anyone else for quite some time, so he's holding onto to anything he can for his own reassurance.
2. He's taken 13 months to say he screwed up. Ok, this is both good and bad. He knows he did something wrong, but he realized it when it might be too late, The trust you once had in him is essentially gone, right?
3. You don't hear that he loves you in his voice. Those are your instincts, it might be wise to listen to them.
I'd be very careful here with him, Girl. He might love you, but it might not be enough to make a real relationship work. He might just want someone at home who cares about him, but what's going to happen when he gets back home?
Talk to him when you see him and pay close attention to his eyes. If the eye contact isn't strong, he's not with you. Plain and simple. When people lie or don't have 100% sincere feeling, the full eye contact isn't there.
That will tell you what you need to know. At least that's how I see it, and what I've experienced. It might be different for you.
In any event, I wish you the best of luck with this, and if you need to talk, I'm here... or on myspace. ;)
Re: I need some words of encouragment..... Freckles: [quote author=EQwidowX2B link=topic=28001.msg272250#msg272250 date=1145627833">
I'm leaving on saturday to go to SC to talk with my husband and to help him finish packing up the house since he's leaving for a 6 month deployment very soon. I'm scared, B/c I do love him, but after waiting 13 months, 6 of which i was with him trying to convience him what he wanted and what he was doing to us and our family, and 7 months here seperated from him, to realize what he's done. and it's taken him this long to say "OH i screwed up!" And in the process b4 this I thought I'd lost him, and was starting to move on with my life. And as much as A aprt of me loves him, another part of me wants to move on. I don't want to fight this anymore.... I was starting to be happy and enjoy my life again. I'm so confused right now; he tells me he loves me, but i don't really hear it in his voice. Or maybe that's just me.. anyone.. any suggestions, any turns, any exeriences you might have had with this that might help me, please :'(
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It's how YOU feel in your Heart
My Wife called me after 8 Months with Zero Calls Zero Contact.
After the Last Year of Marrage Hostile, Last 6 Months of Marrage VERY HOSTILE
Last Day or Two of Marrage SHE SAID * Dont Call me or I will Call Police *
*I will have a WARRENT on YOU Monday*
Her Son said *I can Beat YOU Up GOOD NOW ! *
Both Cussing Me
Both Pot Heads/Drunkerds
So When MY StbxW Called on that Sunday Saying :
I Love You ! Can I come Back Now ? Please ?
My Answer was a matter of *Basic Survival *
I Have and Do Still Love Her. But I dont want to go to Jail or Be Hurt or Killed.
So *I* had to say NO !
But, Your Marrage is Diffrent than Mine (If it were not for Self Preservation ,my answer would have been Diffrent)
It't How YOU Feel
:)
Re: I need some words of encouragment..... EssieDotCom: okay.. honestly how i feel.. I love him, but I think I'm falling for someone else.. and my life is moving on. Is that wrong of me?
Re: I need some words of encouragment..... yella: No, I don't think that's wrong at all.
Your life is moving on, and that's a good thing. You gave it your all, and he chose not to. There's nothing wrong with wanting more for yourself. Nothing at all.
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