Re: Why did I leave? need opinions!!! Freckles: If you don't want to have Sex you may need some medicine.
Testostorine Creme and pills will get you going !
:)
Also I found that when me and my StbxW were in bed Nude together
and Laying on each outher (Thats how to sleep with Wife) Nude.
Our Sweat and Permunes would make us want Love.
The More You Love the More you WANT !
I mean Hugging and Kissing with your Nude Wife all Night is a good way to feel Better.(I like the Light On, Wife likes it Off )
Anouther thing that gets you hot is Breathing Each Others Air.
Breath in When She Beaths Out, Breath Out when She Breths in
(I like to do that)
I would give other ideas , but people allways get mad when I do that.
(Like they were Born under a cabbage Leaf or Something)
:)
Re: Why did I leave? need opinions!!! sosad05: Hi there, I left my 9-yr marriage. We were together since age 17. There were a lot of destructive behaviors on both sides. In the end, I was not at all attracted to him. I remember the last time we had sex, I kept thinking in my mind, "please let this be over." The weird thing is that I look at him and I still think he is a very physically beautiful man. But, I am not and was not attracted to him anymore.
Now, on the flipside. I do have some regret in leaving. I wish there were somehow things could have went differently. There are days that I miss him so much I cant stand it. But, I think what I miss was the familiar. But, I also know...staying with him would not have been fair to me or him.
I admit I especially started having regrets when he found a new woman. Even though, I didnt want him anymore, I didnt necessarily want anyone else to have him either. And you know what....that is just plain selfish.
Now, although I dont agree with the reasons that he's with the new person. And, I dont think he really loves her. Its not my place to do/say/or care. The day I filed for divorce, was the day that my "rights" to him were done.
So, why did you leave? I think you were unhappy and I think you were SMART in leaving her if you werent attracted to her anymore. You might have ended up marrying her, having kids, and cheating on her. Ten times worst. So, you did the right thing. But, a part of you still loves her unconditionally. You went through a lot together. My xh and I basically grew up together from age 17-30.
You have to STOP focusing on her and start focusing on you. Find the things that make you happy. Dont worry about what she is doing....its not your job. The best thing would be to cease contact.
Good luck. I know it hurts and its confusing. But, in time, you'll see everything more clearly.
Why did I leave? need opinions!!! ih8BeinAlone: Hey all,
I know most of this board is people who have been left. But remember that people who do the leaving also can get f'd up emotionally. Anyways, I am feeling a little bit better over the past few weeks. I was just trying to think of why I left my X 4 months ago. Now that I have found out that she is dating someone else I've just wanted to get her back like crazy.
N and I were not married, we lived together for 2 years and had a long distance relationship for another 2 years. (5 years total together) We're both 26 y/o.
During the long distance relationship, when we would see each other once a month our sex life was pretty decent. After a year of living with each other, I had no sexual attraction to her whatsoever. I would rather "take care of myself" than have sex with her.
Not only that, but I also felt she nagged me to death and was more like a mother to me than a g/f. I split out of the house and have been living in an apartment for 4 months. Not once during those 4 months did I ever consider moving back. It's just been recently (when I found out she met someone) that I've gotten jealous and realized what I had. At first I tried to reconcile and throw myself at her, but I am now giving her, her complete space. Altho she calls me every few days and tells me she misses me and she still loves me.
So, please answer my question because I'd like to get as many opinions as possible:
Can a relationship survive if the partner has lost interest in sex/passion at the age of 26? Could I even consider marrying someone that I'm not sexually interested in?
btw - don't get me wrong N is a VERY attractive girl. Sometimes I'm baffeled as to why I don't have a sexual desire for her :(
Re: Why did I leave? need opinions!!! newts: [quote"> Can a relationship survive if the partner has lost interest in sex/passion at the age of 26? Could I even consider marrying someone that I'm not sexually interested in?[/quote">
I would have to say no! One part of a relationship and it's usually the woman that loses the sexual factor in a relationship ends and the guy may start looking at himself as unattractive and looks for the sexual simulation from somebody else (I am nt saying t's always the man, womaen do this too).
Be fair to her, let her go, you are not attracted to her the way a boyfriend, lover or husband should be, let her go and let her experience lust, love and a true commitment. You are only interested now because you thought she would feel this desire for you forever. Don't be selfish, move on and find someone who you don't lose the attarction for so quickly.
Re: Why did I leave? need opinions!!! ih8BeinAlone: Anyone else? I need as many opinions as possible altho i pretty much know what the majority is going to say.
