Why did I leave? need opinions!!! ih8BeinAlone: Hey all,
I know most of this board is people who have been left. But remember that people who do the leaving also can get f'd up emotionally. Anyways, I am feeling a little bit better over the past few weeks. I was just trying to think of why I left my X 4 months ago. Now that I have found out that she is dating someone else I've just wanted to get her back like crazy.
N and I were not married, we lived together for 2 years and had a long distance relationship for another 2 years. (5 years total together) We're both 26 y/o.
During the long distance relationship, when we would see each other once a month our sex life was pretty decent. After a year of living with each other, I had no sexual attraction to her whatsoever. I would rather "take care of myself" than have sex with her.
Not only that, but I also felt she nagged me to death and was more like a mother to me than a g/f. I split out of the house and have been living in an apartment for 4 months. Not once during those 4 months did I ever consider moving back. It's just been recently (when I found out she met someone) that I've gotten jealous and realized what I had. At first I tried to reconcile and throw myself at her, but I am now giving her, her complete space. Altho she calls me every few days and tells me she misses me and she still loves me.
So, please answer my question because I'd like to get as many opinions as possible:
Can a relationship survive if the partner has lost interest in sex/passion at the age of 26? Could I even consider marrying someone that I'm not sexually interested in?
btw - don't get me wrong N is a VERY attractive girl. Sometimes I'm baffeled as to why I don't have a sexual desire for her :(
Re: Why did I leave? need opinions!!! newts: [quote"> Can a relationship survive if the partner has lost interest in sex/passion at the age of 26? Could I even consider marrying someone that I'm not sexually interested in?[/quote">
I would have to say no! One part of a relationship and it's usually the woman that loses the sexual factor in a relationship ends and the guy may start looking at himself as unattractive and looks for the sexual simulation from somebody else (I am nt saying t's always the man, womaen do this too).
Be fair to her, let her go, you are not attracted to her the way a boyfriend, lover or husband should be, let her go and let her experience lust, love and a true commitment. You are only interested now because you thought she would feel this desire for you forever. Don't be selfish, move on and find someone who you don't lose the attarction for so quickly.
Re: Why did I leave? need opinions!!! ih8BeinAlone: Anyone else? I need as many opinions as possible altho i pretty much know what the majority is going to say.
Re: Why did I leave? need opinions!!! Gabo: I'll try to be brief. My X fiancee that I miss so much and me had the same situation. After a year living together I lost the sexual attraction a lot. I thought that it was because I was too young to get married (23 at that time) but anyway I guessed it was shallow for me to break with her for that reason.
Besides i thought that she was very attractive is just that she demanded sexually that I should start everything everytime. Most of the time I was tired with school and very stressed so I rather "took care of my self".
Well she left me for a lot of reasons, that was an important one. All her reasons where really shallow and selfish. I was loving, caring and supportive and treated her very well. The passion was gone in me though. I don't know if it's my problem or that we where not compatible anymore.
Now I just try to find a new woman. Someone who expects the same over a relationship. My advice is to move on.
Other important thing. On our 6 years together we had a long distance relationship for 2 years. I broke up with her after 3 years and well, more or less happened like your situation. She got a new BF and I totally went crazy. I got her back after a while and everything was great but all hell went loose on me 2 years later after that.
So I repeat, my advice... move on. If you get back it will be great but after some years you will fall (or she will fall) in the same mistakes as before if is something that is deep in your personality and not some shallow thing that made you leaving her in the first place.
Re: Why did I leave? need opinions!!! Freckles: If you don't want to have Sex you may need some medicine.
Testostorine Creme and pills will get you going !
:)
Also I found that when me and my StbxW were in bed Nude together
and Laying on each outher (Thats how to sleep with Wife) Nude.
Our Sweat and Permunes would make us want Love.
The More You Love the More you WANT !
I mean Hugging and Kissing with your Nude Wife all Night is a good way to feel Better.(I like the Light On, Wife likes it Off )
Anouther thing that gets you hot is Breathing Each Others Air.
Breath in When She Beaths Out, Breath Out when She Breths in
(I like to do that)
I would give other ideas , but people allways get mad when I do that.
(Like they were Born under a cabbage Leaf or Something)
:)
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