Re: Why did I leave? need opinions!!! walkingzombie: I know this is really long, but it's worth your time-
your comment to fiona was interesting- I was w/ my x for almost 2 years- lived with him for about a year,
- he took the relationship to higher levels, including meeting the family, ...moving in together-
after moving in together, he also started going out with his friends alot and drinking alot- he wouldn't really have sex with me anymore,
i confronted him and he wanted his own space (not live with me anymore)- but he still wanted to stay in the relationship,
i couldn't take that kind of demotion- maybe it was pride, I don't know-
we weren't on a lease anymore and broke up with him after i moved out of the apartment, -
and speaking from your ex's point of view,
when you initiate living with your gf, make her feel that you're heading north, then one day without her knowing, you make a u-turn and you're heading south, (playing single, hangin' with your boys ahhlll the time, and on top of that when you come home you don't want to have sex with her) it becomes very personal to the girl-
her self esteem starts dragging.... and she's shattered to pieces,
she moved on quickly- but not because she was ready,
i was in her shoes, and i can almost guarrantee, that it's because she had a big gap in her life,
and if she was attractive, there's always a guy who will be more than happy to "help her get through this "
I'm not bashing you at all, if any, I believe that she wasn't the girl for you-
if you've ever fall in love and you're ready to be in a real commitment at the same time-
you won't find a reason to run away from her on weekends with friends, you'll either can't wait to come home to her -or you'll want her to join you-
you acted the way you did for a reason- it was probably selfish or she drove you nuts, but the truth is-
you weren't ready,
that's all there's to it,
don't beat yourself up over it,
you want her because you can't have her,
your ego is hurt, and of course there's the "how dare she not be depressed over me" "doesn't she remember that I was the love of her life?"
it's your ego....I went through that too with someone I didn't really love-
it's funny how you realize how much you "truly love" someone when you can't have them-
you'll be alright
