Re: Hold the Phone. Issue. Assistance please. twine: send which ever you decide not to date my way, hopefully its the hot one....lol
Re: Hold the Phone. Issue. Assistance please. Spectrum: I really don't see anything wrong with dating more than one person, as long as everyone knows that is going on.
However, I think you should only be sleeping with one person. If for you dating means sleeping with people, then I think you really need to sit down and re-analyze priorities.
I've been known to date as many as 6 people at once at various points in my life, but at any given time, if I'm sleeping with someone I rarely date anyone else (unless there is an understanding) and I NEVER sleep with more than one person.
In fact, I should say that in all cases but one, if I was sleeping with someone I broke things off with all the other guys or reduced them to strictly a friendship status.
In the "one" case the guy I was dating and sleeping with insisted he wanted to see other people and that it was okay as long as neither of us were sleeping with anyone else. So I dated around a little bit, but eventually I broke up with the original guy because the whole thing just rubbed me the wrong way.
Spectrum.
Re: Hold the Phone. Issue. Assistance please. hudson: Thanks for the input Spec. I agree with you completely!
This dating thing is not as simple as some people claim. When you deal with people's feelings, it's never simple. Probably explains why I've never, until my divorce, gotten myself into the whole dating thing.
I much prefer having one woman and keeping it that way. But my reluctance to become vulerable and intimate with a woman is keeping me from doing that, and that's just where I am at this stage.
Peace ya'll
Re: Hold the Phone. Issue. Assistance please. HeartbrokenDingo: Blazin',
You've gotten opinions from both sides and admittedly, as per your request, your fellow ojarians came through for you. I saw a bit of a diffference in opinion when it came down to deciding the opinions between male vs female, however, spectrum seemed to have a view that was also very wise. :)
I can definitely see your point about not wanting to get tied down in one relationship, even though, at heart, you sound like you are a one woman man when you do fall in love with someone and commit. I also was touched to hear you pontificate about your concerns about hurting someone's, anyones's feelings in the long run. That show's that despite what you have been through that you still are a caring human being who is concerned for the feelings of others.....
"Big, Bad Guerilla warrior, my ass...." :-\
(I knew it all along ya' big softie!) ;)
You've got to do what you feel is right for you at this point in your life. Yes, if you tell us up front, we understand, we know it may not go any further than this, blah, blah, blah, yada, yada, to a certain extent, it is true. If a woman says that, more than likely she means it and in her heart, at the time, she believes it. Even to herself, she believes that she can enter that relationship with you with no expectations and no encumberances and fully expects and believes that she can and will be able to live up to that "contractural agreement". In other words, no strings attached, no guarantees and no promises.
As a woman I can tell you this: We mean it when we say it. However, when it comes right down to it, the way that men and women look at sex or dating in general is different. Women (some) equate love with sex and so if you actually progress to that point in a relationship with a woman, an intimate one, more than likely it is going to be tougher for her to "live up" to that "agreement"..... I thnink that we fall for or get emotionally attached faster than men, that's all.
but if you've been honest and up front with the first young lady then your conscience should be clear if you choose to pursue something with this other young lady. Note, I said your conscience should be clear......
Caviat Emptor! That does not mean you won't feel just as bad if someone's feelings get hurt. :'(
Bear in mind though what your fellow gentlemanly ojarians said.....
The grass is not always greener on the other side and you will run the risk of possibly ending up with neither one. :-\
It's tough Blazin'. It really is. I feel for you. However, I have a feeling that you'll come to the right decision for you. :)
FWIW
IMHO
Dingo
;)
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This ain't "grass is greener", this is a single guy wanting to stroll through 2 or more different pastures. Isnt' that what dating is all about?
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This is the Way to lose both Women.
I have seen his happen , over and over(Other People)
Just my 2 Cents
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This is true.
Also, your pattern is also to fall for very hot young women and then they leave you. You've mentioned this several times. So be aware of that.
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