Re: Hold the Phone. Issue. Assistance please. Older Guy: I see nothing wrong with it if you are all on the same page and you wouldn't mind if she sees other people too.
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No, I like my current dating companion...she's not my "girlfriend. She's super nice, smart, and I really enjoy being with her. However, this new girl deserves a chance too. Don't you think? I'm still single, why shouldn't I be able to date her a few times just to see whats up?
Why do I have to be tied down to this one relationship? See, that's bullcrap. I was married not long ago and I don't want be commited to anybody. I want to be free to do my own thing. I won't always be like this, but at this stage of my life, I don't want a commitment.
This ain't "grass is greener", this is a single guy wanting to stroll through 2 or more different pastures. Isnt' that what dating is all about?
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Re: Hold the Phone. Issue. Assistance please. hudson: Honestly Freck, I pretty much feel the same way you do.
But I'm using this whole "i'm just dating", "i'm not ready for a real relationship", "i'm trying out a few different people to see who fits me best", "i'm playing the field", "i'm getting to know different people".
Because that kind of attitude and behavior seems to be pretty excusable around ojar. It seems to be the "way to go" for divorcees. Heck, why can't I play the field? I'm always hearing "oh honey, try out a few different people, date around" or "you know, you don't have to pick one right now, you're single, enjoy it". So thats what I do.
Bottomline is, I'm not ready for a committed relationship, and I tell everyone that. But no woman that I date wants to hear me saying "i'm not ready", so they are in denial, but I told them up front.
Now i'm confused. [quote author=Mugged By Fluffy link=topic=28023.msg272485#msg272485 date=1145658362">
Not that there is anything wrong with that. I guess it comes down to how the current girl would feel about it,her expectations of you and the kind of relationship she wants.
Were you up front and straight with her from the beginning of the relationship about not taking it so serious so soon? Is this something that she is ok with?
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Dude, trust me. I learned the hard way in my first post-divorce relationship to always be extremely, in-your-face up front about where I am as far as my relationship expectations. I have told the girl and every girl that I have dated since my divorce that I am not exactly boyfriend, committed relationship material.
So this woman i'm dating knows that I don't want a commitment. That doesn't stop her from getting more and more emotionally attached to me though.
I was gonna break it off with her over a week ago, but I didn't. And now she's even more attached. So yeah, when I tell her that I want to date someone else, she's gonna be really hurt.
Re: Hold the Phone. Issue. Assistance please. Goddess: Blazin~
I know you dont want to intentionally hurt anyone but you know she's gonna be hurt no matter what so why not just give her the facts? You told her straight up you were not the settle down committment kinda guy..She wasnt flying blind here..
It will be better in the long run if you just lay it to her straight as soon as possible.. save her anymore heartache and you the issue of figuring out what to do.
You're right... you are single.. as long as you are up front from the get go..you should be able to date as many women as you want.
(btw.. loved the pics of your tomato plants..the little sign was priceless! :))
2 cents for ya-
Goddess
Re: Hold the Phone. Issue. Assistance please. hudson: Thanks for not tearing into me Goddess. I am definitely going to be 100% honest with both women no matter what happens. I just wish I could stay away from these sort of situations. But it seems that if I am going to meet women and date them, then someone will always get hurt or be dumped...until that is, I can find the one that wins my heart and once again settles me down.
But right now i'm a wild stallion! GIDDYUP!
Re: Hold the Phone. Issue. Assistance please. Lumpy: [quote author=Freckles link=topic=28023.msg272483#msg272483 date=1145657606">
[quote author=blazin'heart link=topic=28023.msg272478#msg272478 date=1145657052">
This ain't "grass is greener", this is a single guy wanting to stroll through 2 or more different pastures. Isnt' that what dating is all about?
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This is the Way to lose both Women.
I have seen his happen , over and over(Other People)
Just my 2 Cents
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Freckles kickin' down with the strength of street knowledge! One in the hand is worth two in the bush eh, Freck?
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