young and heartbroken jyates57: OK. i was cheated on and i feel like i cant get anyone better than her i have very low self cofidence. Hi my name is josh i live in oklahoma and i was with brandie for almost 4 years. we are very young she is 17 and i am 20 and we stared going together 4 years ago. We loved each other so much and did everything together. we both lost all of our friends and it was just the two of us. well i graduated in 2004 and went to kansas for collegebut i came home every weekend to see her. we talked on the phone hours every day. Well she got pregnate and i was soooo happy! we got married in march and i moved back to oklahoma in may! we had our baby AAbbey in july and i thought things were going great. well she is a senior in high school this year and she was at school and i was at work all the time and she a new job in september at long john silvers and it just opened. For some reason i did not want her working there i just felt bad about it. well one night i just got home from work and i was waiting to see her. she got off at 11 so she never showed up i got worried and went looking for her well i saw her pulling out of some appartments by her work. i stoped her on the road and i was a little upset and asked her where she been well of course she lied. I belived her and 2 weeks later she told me to leave she is tired of me. it has been six months now the boy she was or still is with is named brandon and he does some drugs and i dont want my daughter around that and i also dont want brandie arount it either. She has got alot of new friends and alot of guy friends. Brandie broke up with her boy friens a week ago and she went to prom and made out with some guy there last week and she was calling me to talk and i went down to see her ( i live an hour away now) And this was wednesday and we went tio the mall and we kissed and stuff. yes also had sex. but i do know that we wont get back together so why did i do that. yesterday we meet so i could pick up abbey and we didnt get along to good and she was on her cell phone the whole time. Why do i worry about her so much? all her guy friens do some kind of drugs and i know she has only had sex with that guy but i just worry what can i do ? And is it all that wrong we had sex we are still married leagaly.
Re: young and heartbroken audi_driver: hey..........I know you are young man.....
I'll give you some advice and it's not what you want to hear.....
1.) Get custody of your daughter if she is doing drugs. you will probably need to have her take a urine and hair test (u take one too)........Getting custody can be done in a variety of different ways.......send me a message by clicking on my name and i will help you out.
2.) Protect yourself and the child. Your responsibility is the child. Don't let feelings for your ex get in the way of what you need to do.
3.) You are obviously going through a lot and it will be hard but there is something you have on your side man..................You are 20 years old!!!
Re: young and heartbroken jyates57: Thank you that i a good idea. I dont think she is on drugs but all her friends are that she works with. I would like to get her tested but im short on money so we have been seperated for 6 months.
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Thank you that i a good idea. I dont think she is on drugs but all her friends are that she works with. I would like to get her tested but im short on money so we have been seperated for 6 months.
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you do that through the court system.......you file a "order to show cause" and in your papers, you include that reasons why you are concerned about the wellfare of your child.
Re: young and heartbroken WorldOfHurt: Marriage at a young age is a hard thing to do in this day and age. I was 20 when I married my 16 y/o wife. Well after 3 years of being with just me she wants to be independent. It seems as if they want to do all the things they should've done before they got married.
Your child is your biggest concern at this point in time and you don't want her growing up in a bad environment.
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