Re: Anyone know of a different advice site for me? Macaw_Lover: This is my last post, 56 reads, not a one response......I know not everyone can relate to one another. In fact i'm not sure there is even such a site for these issues......lol no not looking for a dating site :) Anyways, here it is...
http://ojar.com/boards/index.php/topic,27821.0.html
Re: Anyone know of a different advice site for me? superwife: it's up to 103 reads now (but still no replies). I'm trying to make light of the situation, sorry. I can't tell you how many times I am the last poster in a thread, and I feel a little put out (like I ruined it or something). But, to be honest, I wouldn't know how to reply to a thread like that. There's no question to be asked. It's rather long and wordy, it kind of lost my attention (I do have a short attention span in online bb's). And the titla is not exactly catchy (I though you were talking about a movie you really liked- silly me).
Again, what is it that you are looking for? I find that there are certain cliques here (and I don't meant that in a bad way at all). I noticed I tend to relate to certain people. Age might be an issue, maturity, situations, kids (whather you have or not) mifght be an isue. If you have a bf or gf (or are looking) that might connect you with certain people). And of course personality. Maybe you need a different type of 'support'.
Re: Anyone know of a different advice site for me? Macaw_Lover: Disturbing how? Honestly I didn't mean to upset anyone. I have heard it all on what to do, and know that in my situation I can't change it. I know this, heard it a thousand times and agree with it. I do have to respect that when it comes to family dysfuction that it is tough to speak of.......I get that.....it's hard for me to. But I choose to, because in all honesty even if no one responds....it still does help me a bit....because i'm talking about it or well "typing" about it lol. When I was in HS I used to go to group meetings with other kids who had alcohol in there family. That helped at the time, but well now...didn't think this would be circleing again.
SW, I appreciate your responses I really do. Please don't take this in the wrong light but when writing my posts I write what is in my mind. Not sitting here thinking of a "catchy" title on what will attract the most people. Or how could I write my post to keep ones attention. most ppl in here I think just write as it comes to mind. Obviously its hard to comment on a situation one hasn't been in. Again I get and respect that. I was just wondering of an area that may work better and have gotten a few replies in PMs that I will definately try and ty for those that did.
My point is I never meant to seem like an ungrateful poster, because really I have gotten a lot out of this site. I'm not saying I would leave it, only maybe in certain areas be able to go that could help me with some of my lifes issues if that makes sense.
Please forgive me if I have made anyone upset or disturbed it was not my intent.
One thing I have learned is that no I can't change my sister......so some say why be upset. The upset is always going to be there no matter if i'm silent about it or not.....
You know the other night I found out my nephew that left to live with my brother was arrested in Tiajuana Mexico on Easter.....for sneaking beer out of a bar along with trying to buy vicodin. My sister said "How dare my son judge me when I'm twice his age" as soon as she said that I KNEW what she meant and that was him saying how she drinks all the time....kills me to stay silent about it.
What I meant by my title of the movie, was well when I was a kid this was going on as well as for my siblings.....and so then it was the past on "vhs" and now in the presant its all coming back, same movie but now we are in the age of dvds. Silly I know, just came into my mind as such so I wrote that.
Anyways, thanks again and I need to respect that usually when I don't post on ones "post" is because I can not relate or understand so I have to expect the same of my issues.....and that IS ok :)
Re: Anyone know of a different advice site for me? toolboy: Have you tried counseling. Mabye through, mental health services, churches, womens groups? I know when we split I turned to the church and was told Marriage counseling wasn't in thier relm of expertice. Boy did that s**k, the church did not counsel for marriage. But they did counsel on family matters. I just couldn't seem to seperate the two as they did.
Re: Anyone know of a different advice site for me? Macaw_Lover: To be honest with you i'm not really a church person, at all. Believe in god, but don't believe you need to go to church in order to do so....anyways enough of that. Religion isn't the topic to get on :)
I went to a group when I was in HS with people like me whose parents were alcoholics....however that was for my own issues during that time......
