been awhile.... kipeachi: I've not been on here in awhile. How is everyone?
So much has happened........First of all I finally got a two bedroom apt!!! So no more sex craved neighbors above me , or as far as I know..lol I've been buzy working, went full time m-f 8-5, getting benifits.....
I made it through Easter okay, was kinda sad. My sons father was not allowed at his grandpa's , where we had Easter, because He had brought his girlfriend, and his grandpa does not approve of that. So was kinda tough......
This coming Tuesday My stbxh goes to court for having drugs within a school limit which is a felony. So we dont' know whats gonna happen there. And also this weekend they served him w/ child support, dont' guess it'll do any good if they send him to jail. lol
And you want to know something crazy? Everybody wants to know how long it'll take to get over your x? well its been 6 months for me, and I dont' think I'll ever stop loving him, but as far as being over him, I think i've reached that point. The other nite he came over to my apartment needing a place to stay, because him and his girlfriend and her little girl had no place to go. So since my son was so happy to see his father, I let them stay, and how odd it was to be in the same house as your husband and his girlfriend!!! And it never occured to me to even to think that till the next day, but I was more worried about her stealing something from me LOL And yes I know how stupid was I for letting him stay especialy w/ her, but it worked out fine, and made me think that i'm really moving on, and so much better off w/ out him, 6 months, he has no house, and is being charged w/ a felony and probalbly doing jail time.........Yes I'll always love him, but when I look at him I wonder what the hell was I thinking.......hehhe Well just a little update, to let everyone know I"m doing okay, just buzy........Hope all is well w/ everyone on ojar, hope to be around more..............Kiamichi..........
Re: been awhile.... toolboy: I think that is great, for you and his girlfriend and her child, real compassion there. it takes a very large person to do that. You must have grown in your heart and your soul. wow, just wow.
Re: been awhile.... alonewith2: ...so this means no more contests to see what things you can do to PO the upstairs nieghbors?!!! But that was so much fun!!!
I think letting your ex and his gf stay showed how much character you have. And you set a really good example for your son! So no lecture here!! I would have done the same thing....following the mandatory strip search and dog sniffing of all their belongings...but I would have done it!
It's not wrong to still have feeling for him either. It's hard to turn off all the memories. There's not light switch feature for that...or life would be too easy. I think it's great that you have reached a point where you can say, "I love him, but I don't want to be with him and I'm really okay with that!" ;D
Re: been awhile.... flyaway: kiamichi, I'm really glad that you made the distinction of still loving him, yet you feel that you've gotten over him. That was a great way to put it.
I don't want to be angry/bitter for the rest of my life. I want to look on him fondly, and remember the good in him, in us. He is the father of my children, and my first love.
I have "gotten over him". I am moving, once again, toward loving him...but in a vastly different light than before. It is liberating in my spirit. I know that not only does it affect me on the inside, but I have never felt more beautiful on the outside.
[size=7pt"> now, to let him and the OW stay with me.....hmmmm, that'll take some years before that would ever happen. Like maybe when hell freezes over?[/size"> ;D
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Re: been awhile.... kipeachi: [quote"> so this means no more contests to see what things you can do to PO the upstairs nieghbors?!!! But that was so much fun!!