I filed for divorce yesterday. cab1000: I filed for divorce yesterday. She is with the OM (my brother). I am trying to find new friends to surround myself with. The last two nights I have had visitors. I have the kids (3). Tonight I do not have plans, and I am feeling pretty low.
She is all I think about. I still love her, but she has proved that she does not love me. We had been married for eleven years. She is thirty one. I am having trouble giving anything attention, even the kids. I sit around and smoke like there is a prize in the carton. Every waking thought is of her and what she is doing to me. The only relief is when I speak with someone else. The problem is I have a very short list of people to confide in, and I don't want to burn them out.
I could go to the bookstore and get a divorce book, and take the kids to the park. That sounds good. I have so much laundry to do. The house could use a cleaning too. Its no big deal, I am used to doing it, but I have no drive. I used to do it to make her happy. This is so hard.
I know that you guys feel / felt the same way I do, and that I am not crazy. It is so bad that I do not even feel like doing things that I love to do.
One step at a time. I know. Its just so hard when it is all weighing on your mind.
I have eaten VERY little over the last five days. I am a big guy, so I have the reserves to live on, but it can't be healthy.
I know she is with him now, and that bothers me so much. Even though I am trying to let her go, I can not seem to.
Honestly, who in there right mind leaves their husband for their brother in law? Honestly. Most people I tell about this tell me I should be on the Springer show. They must think its a joke. Ha ha. :(
~cab
Re: I filed for divorce yesterday. jyates57: hey man im so sorry for what has happened. I look at my situation and think it is bad and it is but just to think that a brother would do that he must be scum of the earth! ho will get his someday you watch. Just pick your self up and everytime you think of her just think of her as a liar and cheater and she will also get it back in return someday. if you need someone to talk to just message me. I wish you the best
Re: I filed for divorce yesterday. ajw: We wont lie,its going to be tough......but look at this as the first step to a better place.At least you have given yourself a chance now,when you had none with 2 people who both think nothing about lying and betraying you.
The chances of this relationship working between your brother and wife is zero.Family and friends will treat them like pariahs and eventually that will break them up.
Does your wife know you've filed yet?......also make sure in any custody agreement that your brother is not allowed to be around when she has the kids.
Re: I filed for divorce yesterday. cab1000: I text messaged her that I filed, and a few details about it, and she texted back, "FINE!"
Wasn't sure how to read that, but I take it mean. I was quite sure that she was at his house when she got it.
We are planning on split custody. Every other week. Drop them off on Monday at daycare, and the other parent picks them up Monday afternoon.
Re: I filed for divorce yesterday. twine: I hope everything works out for you, and nothing works out for her, it is good that you will see your kids lots that is very important. when you are alone without the kids and feeling down don't be scared to phone them , i have started to make a video tape of myself for my kids it is quite fun doing it.
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