Re: they're still together jyates57: same thing happened here i feel like im not good enoug for her and everytime i wanna talk to a woman that is even a little better looking than my x i talk myself out of it and i say to myself ( if im not good enough for my x that what makes me good enough for her) so dont feel like that. my x has a pot head boy friend and lots of new "guy friends" so your better than him dont make yourself feel bad.
Re: they're still together LostTeacher: my ex has been with the same woman since we seperated. he didn't date around, he didn't see a bunch of people, he went from me to her. and they have been together since we seperated, or even a little before that, was never sure.
really.........does it matter? it used to bug me, because how could he get serious with someone else so quickly? did our 13 years together mean anything to him?
but the reality is, it doesn't matter. i don't control who he dates, what he does, who he likes/loves. we are divorced. we are not a part of each others lives.
we need to move on..........and the only way we can do that is to start letting go.
LT
Re: they're still together newts: [quote"> in the end I just wasn't good enough. Someone better came along.
Just feeling sad I guess. Worthless. Like I'll never be good enough.[/quote">
That is the most ridiculious comment I have ever heard! YOU are good enough... YOU are NOT worthless. If anything your ex husband is worthless and wasn't good enough for you.
You must understand that we can't change somebodies feeling they have for us, he obviously changed and his needs and desires also changed. When somebody leaves us for somebody else I know it's hard not to take it personally, however, it has nothing to do with your character or that you weren't good enough it has to do with where that person is a that time.
He married you so obviously you were worth a lot to him and you were more than good enough for him. Even thouh he is still with this other woman, he hasn't married you, he married you.
The flip side of this situation is that you will move on and find someone who loves you and treats you with the respect that you derserve, that will only happen if you know you are deserving and worth a lot more than you seem to believe you are - be positive and good to yourself. Love yourself and love will come running to you.
