Re: Wedding vows.. why bother? yella: If I can add something here... I don't think just applies to wedding vows. I think it applies to life in relationships in general.
I had someone promise me that he'll be there waiting to walk through the door when I was ready for him. He promised me that he'd never run, and he'd ALWAYS (yes, extra emphasis there) be there, yet he ran like a rabbid fox at the first sign of "trouble" or "conflict in personality".
My point... he made promises... strong promises he never intended to keep, so is there really a difference between wedding vows and promises made in a relationship? I don't think so.
If you make a promise, you should intend on keeping it. Otherwise keep your damn mouth shut!
But hey, I was stupid enough to believe it, right? ::)
I guess caution should be taken whenever anyone promises you anything in a relationship. But then again, how would we ever trust? Hmmm... a lesson I'm still trying to learn.
What's funny is that whenever anyone promises me anything, I laugh. Yes, I laugh.
This is one of the reasons the "L" word won't come up in my new relationship for a very long time. I refuse to hear it, and I refuse to say it. It's safer that way. ;) There's no sense in crossing that road again. I'm pretty much tapped out.
Re: Wedding vows.. why bother? Irony:
Thanks all...
and smiley...
as for things said not meant to be taken seriously, try this one on for size. Before we got married, we got into a tiff about a prenuptual agreement and I guess thinbgs got pretty heated. As a result, my stbxw sent me this in an email:
[color=navy"> "...I am finding myself asking you to show your trust in me again. Can you trust that no matter the situation, the conflict, that I will not run away? I want you. Can you take my emotional self and hold me firmly.. but with the gentle hand of understanding?"[/color">
So.. I trusted her.
YUP! Never gonna run away, no matter the situation or the conflict.
So there!
Fool me once.
iron man
Re: Wedding vows.. why bother? yella: [quote author=iron man (formerly irony) link=topic=28050.msg272908#msg272908 date=1145819615">
[color=navy"> [iCan you trust that no matter the situation, the conflict, that I will not run away? I want you. "[/color">
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Holy crap!!! That's almost word for word, Iron man!!!! I'm floored!!! Totally floored!!!!
Re: Wedding vows.. why bother? Irony:
Smiley...
please pick yourself up off the floor...
ok.. that's much better.
Seems to be the way of people leaving to go through the same few lines of dialog one way or another... maybe it goes along with the "I love you, but I'm not IN love wiith you" or the "I love you but I can't live with you."
She specifically asked me to trust her. that she wouldn't leave. And it was always her who made such a big deal about trust.
I think she's got me beat here by a kilometer or two.
iron man
bottom line smiley.. I just miss her, that's all.
Re: Wedding vows.. why bother? yella: *gets up off the floor*
I know you do, Buddy, but is it really her you miss, or the idea of her?
How do you really know anyway? ::) I sure as hell don't.
Another question: When people really ask you trust them, or beg for you to trust them, are they really hiding something? That's the feeling I got.
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