Should I do court or a divorce agreement charbie: Hello all,
I need advice again as to wether I should do a divorce agreement or should I take his ass to court? I am sooooo confused!! I was a stay at home mom for four years now and he has decided he wants a divorce. I dont know or not if he is with someone else for certain but I guess that is somwhat irrelevant I just want wants fair out of this marraige and I want him to take care of his children financially. On Wednesday I have him summonsed to court for support. I dont think he realizes he has to be there that day. I have an appoiintment on Wednesday night with his lawyer to sign the agreement. I need to know which path I am taking wednesday morning. UGH! He wants to stay friends but,the friends part is important to me but it is just as important to me for him to have equa financial responsibilty for these 2 babies we have 3 and 9 mos. Most of his money is made off the books so, it is going to be hard for me to prove his income. The judge may offer me less than what is on the agreement or I she may offer me more. I just dont know what to do. As far as court goes I dont want to burn my bridges with him for the kids sake but., at the same time I dont want to be kicking myself in the butt if I were to sign the agreement. Does anyone have any advice at all. It is a very sticky situation I am in.
Re: Should I do court or a divorce agreement Lumpy: Do you have a lawyer? If so, have him/her compute what his child support payments are going to be with his "on the books" income. Is this number less than what he's offering you? Do you think the amount he's offering is fair? (Can you and the kids live off it+whatever income you can generate.)
Re: Should I do court or a divorce agreement charbie: The only thing that is left open ended is the healthcare and the childcare pretty much. I am also waiving my right to amintenance in which I dont believe would be that much more oney and it is only for a limited time. I am wondering if I should just let it go and be rid of him!!!! I also dont like the joint custody. If I am going to have all the liability I feel I should have full custody. This is going to be the toughest decision I ever make in my life. Now, he thinks he doesnt have to be at court on wednesday....will that work o my advantage. I need to ask my lawyer on monday I guess. I am reluctant to listen to the lawyer for every little thing I mean he is looking to make money on this himself.
Re: Should I do court or a divorce agreement Lumpy: Not sure what you mean about liability. He will be every bit as liable for the health and welfare of his children as you will. (At least legally. Obviously I don't know what kind of human being your ex is.)
Re: Should I do court or a divorce agreement charbie: As far as liability goes he has on the agreement that he will "contribute" to healthcare exspenses. It does not specify a percentage. He wont put that on there. And as far as day care he tells me that is my problem otherwise if I cannot afford to have the kids that he will take them and I can pay him support. Nice guy huh?
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