Re: Worrying For Nothing? Older Guy: EZ - i really don't know if it is possible for you to do it in this relationship. You might have better success if you try to do it outside of "any" relationship.
I might be hard to build up your confidence when you are in a relationship that makes you feel insecure. not impossible i guess but the results may be hampered by this "2 steps forward 3 steps back" situation.
Having said that only you can decide what you can do within a relationship. You should talk with your girlfriend about how you feel. It might be just a matter of her adjusting her behaviour a little. If she loves you and wants to be with you she should be open to listening to your concerns.
As far as being a "man" and not a "boy" only you know that...i know some 27 year olds that are ten times more mature than 34 years olds or even 44 years for that matter. it really depends on the person. Just thinking or perceiving yourself as man and an adult would be a step in the right direction for you. Don;t let "anyone" tell you what you are. Only you can make that call. Take charge of your own life and situation. You can do it.
Re: Worrying For Nothing? ajw: I think a lot of this has been caused by your insecurities.Saying that your gf has not done much to allay your fears.I believe some counselling,mainly for just you but some together as well.Its easy to think when an ex comes back that they are just settling for something old and comfortable while looking for someone new.I dont know if thats her intention,but you say things are already different than they where originally.That smacks of "i'm here cause this is easy,but i'm off as soon as i see someone better"
