Re: Separated 6 months today...the life lessons continue... Irony:
Yeah, I read your post toofresh..
I too pushed my stbxw out the door.
like I said, what an asshat!
iron man
Re: Separated 6 months today...the life lessons continue... yella: Iron Man... there are so many things that went wrong in your marriage that also go wrong in so many other marriages.
Take the fact that you both had kids, and your son lost his mom in a car accident. They were both troubled boys, and that will put a ton of pressure on any relationship. I think one thing you could do differently in the future is see a counsellor when your next relationship starts to get serious. You know, deal with what might happen in the beginning so you both can learn to deal with it, instead of trying to fix what already went wrong? Actually, this is something I will seriously consider doing if mine gets serious.
This is something I think all couples with 2 sets of kids should do. Learn to deal with the situations before they get out of hand. We're all learning here, right?
Bottom line, Buddy, you did what you thought you could do. Yes, you got negative and you got angry, and controlling, but how could you know exactly what to do in that type of situation? How could anyone?
Now that I've read your story, I have a whole new respect for you. You know what you did wrong, and you know what you've lost. That, in my mind, is huge. You're learned a very valuable lesson... now all you can do is apply it to your future.
I know this isn't easy, but try not to be too hard on yourself. After all, you learned something, right? You never know what the future holds, and if you take and apply the lesson learned, only good can come from it. ;)
Re: Separated 6 months today...the life lessons continue... Irony:
Thanks Smiley, I value your opinion.
Yeah, I learned a lot.. slow learner though, I am.
And we did try counseling early on, only I used it to showcase my hurt instead of being constructive.
Asshat is a kind word for how I behaved.
Like I said, I only wish I hadn't lost her in the process. I cringe at starting over without her, or with someone else.
Rebuild. Rebuild. Rebuild.
iron man
Re: Separated 6 months today...the life lessons continue... yella: One step at a time, Bud.
You know what you did wrong, you know you used the sessions as a battlefield... something my xh still hasn't recognized, so you're one step up on him.
I know it's hard to think that rebuilding without her is going to be hard, but when it's right, it's easy. Right?
I honestly believe that. ;)
Re: Separated 6 months today...the life lessons continue... Irony: Hey, I rebuilt my life after my first wife was killed and found D___.
never know.
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