My advice for all the heart broken one. HeartBrokenDemon: I been on and off this ojar site for about a year now.
My GF of 8 years broken up with me last year in May and I stumble cross ojar, I was torn, and hurting really bad. Trust me I know how you feel and what you all been through.
My situation may not be as painful as all of you but it was enough to make me cried most day & night eating my breakfast in tears and wake up in the midle of most night with tears for 3 months. My pain was so bad that i can't control my mood, I was angry of how could she do this to me, Sad because im so lonely, happy that i can do what I want because I'm free, guilty of what have i done wrong and what if I did this whould it save my relationship.
From my own experiences of been through pains, my only advice is Time Heal everything. How much time is all depend on how well you look after your self mind and body. Think about your past or her does not help, eating junk food, fatty food, alchol,do drug, does not help either. And sitting around doing nothing, does not help either. As i found that when i sit around doing nothing all i do is think of her and about my past and it hurt like hell.
What you have to understand is that the painful feeling deep in side your chest is your soul hurting, we all have a soul. Let say that what you are feeling right now is soul feeling. Soul feeling is a feeling that can make you feel weak in side and all over your body and it can make your mind tell your body do stupid thing like stalk her or keep calling her.
When your soul is down, you need to use your mind to control your body, because your soul can not cope or deal with the pressure and pains, it need time to rest and feel the pains that life has to offer so it can get over it.
Soul is a captain of your life, your mind is a vice captain and your body is your troop of army. So when your soul is down you as your mind will have to be incharge of everything. You as your mind should tell you body to eat right, do some exercises or go for a walk, go and see your friends and family. Don't let you soul bring you down, forget about your soul for now , use your head, and do the right thing for your body. You need to look good to feel good to fullfill your soul so you can be 100% again.
So start using your mind for now and tell your body to do things that will benefit your soul later on down the track. Remember you're single and people knows it now, you will be invite to all the parties that is out there so have fun but be safe.
