Re: sexual addiction?? Spectrum: If you think that you are indeed an addict, then professional help is definitely the way to go. At least that way you'll have an objective professional giving his/her opinion on your situation.
Out of curiosity... Did your ex every say that she had a problem with the porn specifically? You mentioned comments about how much you downloaded.... were you working out of your home at the time? What would have led her to that conclusion?
Did your ex ever mention that she felt that porn was causing problems for you two? Did she say things to you at the time that made you think that perhaps you should indulge in it less? Or that she would prefer you would?
Spectrum.
sexual addiction?? toofreshtothinkright: Has anyone here lost a relationship due to sexual or pornographic addiction?
I'm really curious....I've been reading about it.
Re: sexual addiction?? cab1000: I think it was a major player in my current divorce. I am / was addicted to porn, and it hurt my stxw. I down played its importance, I think it broke her heart a long time ago. I just could not stop. It made her feel undesirable, but that was far from the way I seen her. She is very attractive.
Re: sexual addiction?? toofreshtothinkright: I think that the same thing might have happened to me. I had the most gorgeous gf, but always looked at porn. I had absolutely no reason to...and she put up with it. What happened was it really affected my viewpoint on what sex and love was and it allowed me to easily disassociate the two...I even remembered trying to explain that to her. The more I read on it, the more I know I was hooked.......I always used to be one of the guys that was regarded as being adventurous sexually, but now I really think it was because that is what I thought was normal, and you always want to push the envelope..Meaning no matter how good the sex is, you want the next level.
I really can't look at myself the same way after realizing this is where most of our issues came from. How do you forgive yourself for this? She was everything that I wanted in a gf, i mean everything. But she felt unsexy or unappreciated and in competition with it. I can't beleive that I did this. I mean, how do you forgive yourself for something like this? The more I realize this was a HUGE issue, the more I want to end my life...What do I do?
Re: sexual addiction?? cab1000: I don't know. The past is done. We can not change that. We can try to better ourselves by learning from the past. Look forward.
(note to self)
