what does this mean? trapped: My ex called me tonight, he is calling me more and more frequently and is no longer hostile but very kind all the time. But he called me tonight and wanted to just talk and was reminiscing in a fond manner even. It was/is odd. He even asked me to go to lunch a couple days ago. I dont quite know what to make of it. Its probably not wise of me to engage, I know.
At one point he was telling me about a conversation he had with his boss within the past couple days and he said that he said to him " My relationship with my girl is really messed up right now" when discussing us. What does that mean? He referred to me as his girl in the present tense. Was that just a slip up? Im probably reading way too much into this, grasping at nothing. Setting myself up for a letdown.
Re: what does this mean? Lumpy: Your almost out of his reach hon. He's probably having a hard time digesting that. Do you really want him back?
Re: what does this mean? YellowJacket: Someone may not sound like a good option one day but maybe they do another. He may genuinely want you back and may be committed to staying with you. He may also be lonely and wanting you there as a safety net because of something that's missing for him.
You probably can't know for sure what's going on until you see how it plays out. But I'd be very careful before committing yourself to him emotionally (or physically) until you're more certain. Oh -- certain in this case means watching his actions over a period of time, not his words one night.
Best of luck!
Re: what does this mean? jen: He could be realizing the finality of things with the fact that you are set to move soon. It's hard to say what that reminiscing means...even if he is just now grasping the reality of what he has set into motion, that doesn't mean that he would be willing (or could) to do what it would take to put things back on track. Only you know the answer to Lumpy's question as to whether you would truly want him back at this point.
No matter what, darlin, I'd just caution you to be careful. It's natural to get your hopes up and to read too much into things, especially when its what we want to hear.
Hugs,
mtmo
Re: what does this mean? trapped: I never ever thought I would say this but it may be too late, not that I want it to be. I want to be with him always. Thats never changed. I just dont know how its repairable. Its not even that I love him any less. I love him just as much as ever. I miss him so badly its indescribable, although I know you guys know how that feels. There was just so much at stake this time. It was too brutal of a letdown. It destroyed me. Im not even certain of his fidelity during those last few weeks in February...or what hes been doing all this time.
Geez. What a mindf**k. He never stops confusing me, thats for sure. He never fully lets me go.
Im probably just overanalyzing it anyway and its moot point. *sigh*
I dont think I will ever be out of his reach. Why'd he have to go and leave me again?
This sucks.
