Re: AT WITS END setanta: Thx WOH
Yeah I have just done as u said...it does make sense....buts it is so true...I know I will come outta this a better and stronger person.....but I so much want it to be with my ex not someone new...told her this also........as she is with someone else already....go figure eh....
I have sent lots of emails this past week.........have said all i can say........I DONT WANNA PUSH HER AWAY...........So after this I will wait for her to get back to me I think....
Thx again
Re: AT WITS END ezydriver: Deleted for good reason
Re: AT WITS END setanta: Well I called her today in hope she wud answer.....we chatted for ages.. in which I genuinely expressed how I HAVE TO CHANGE AND MOVE ON FROM THE PAST....which is what I am gonna do.......hopefully we can get things back on track..gonna have a weeks break now without contact...so maybe there is light at end of the tunnel.........
Obviously the hard work has truly to begin then
Thx for replying earlier EZ
Re: AT WITS END WorldOfHurt: Make her think you are right for her. The reason I think people leave is because one person gets too comfortable in a relationship and takes it for granted. At first I started becoming a better person to prove to her I am a committed person to this relationship but it means so much more to me now that I am doing it for myself, whether she comes back or not. I still love my wife very much and will never stop, I've told her I did a lot of things for myself and changed many things in my life for the better and I love her enough to see her happy in whatever she wants to do. Letting go is the hardest thing in the world I have ever done but you really do come out a stronger person in the end. I feel a little bit better everyday, though there are days where I almost completely break down and scream to God to bring her back, I just need someone to talk to and compose myself. When someone leaves they are usually really more emotional than they show and send a lot of mixed signals. Love is unexplainable, it can hurt you more than you ever thought possible or it can make you the happiest person in the world. All things work out in the end and if she does come back I won't make the same mistakes I did the first time, but if she doesn't I will move on and never forget the great times we shared together.
No contact is a good thing, but if she calls TALK TO HER. Don't tell her how your doing unless she asks. Ask her how she is doing and talk about small things in her life like how her dog is doing or something, the last thing you want to do is brag about yourself or tell her your are perfectly fine. If she asks just tell her your taking control of your life and it's different without you here and you miss her very much.
Re: AT WITS END tomuchpain: The eating will come with time. I went almost 2 weeks on nothing more than a couple of sunflower seeds and yerba mate. After about 2 weeks and me moving out did my appetite finally start to come back. Its not anywhere near where it used to be but at least I am eating again. Its hard to eat when your heart has been ripped out, stomped on and your stomach is turned inside out. Just give it sometime and it will come back.
In the mean time drink pleanty of water and take some vitimins it will help keep you healthy until you are ready to eat again.
As for the no contact I believe that you should tell her everything that you feel she needs to hear and then once you both know exactly how each other feels then give each other some time apart. I know that it is hard to let go of something you love so much but it really is what is best for both of you.
I am not going to lie to you the next week or so is going to be a rollercoaster of a ride for you emotions. So you have to stay strong and continue to lean on ojar. Ojar will give you the support you need and a forum to vent your frustrations. It has been invaluable to me and I know that I would be in a much worse position if not for ojar.
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