Re: Thank God for the freaks of the world! no date: ahh!
your catching on! now you know why I call myself NODATE!...BUT, don't give up on dating! try the cell phone thing it worked wonders for me. it doesn't solve all of the problems associated with online dating but it sure limits some of them. I completely see/hear your frustration on this subject and by and large I would have to agree there are a lot of creeps on dating sites these days as well but I have met some really nice people {in person} from dating sites! {no nothing long term} but the one thing in common with all of the women I met was that theyalso didn't beliee in long email correspondance they wanted to know how/what I sounded like within a few emails {they also thought it was a waste of time"> . I still talk to a few that I have met online as friends only, and then and only then do I think it's appropriate to add these people to your im buddy list [the reverse of what most people do}
Re: Thank God for the freaks of the world! superwife: [quote author=no date link=topic=28542.msg277722#msg277722 date=1147055940">
If your going to do online dating at all seriously then may I suggest buying a prepaid cell phone? you can reg it under a fake name ;) beleive me it's worth it! this way if the stooge is weird you can just hang up on him/her and everything is secret and 100% safe :)
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there'a an idea...
or just blocking the caller ID...btw how do you do that?
Re: Thank God for the freaks of the world! superwife: [quote author=no date link=topic=28542.msg277723#msg277723 date=1147056392">
Forget I'ming it isn't that good as far as I'm concerned way too much chat and not really enough info is ever given on that particular form of communication i m is good for creating friend/buddy lists for online chatting but sucks for real dating if you ever want to take it to the next level, I have been double matched on hon and I just delete someone who wants to have what I call an Im relationship, my reasons...takes to long to try to figure the person out and too many games can be played doing it this way as well, the prepaid cell is the way to go IMHO
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Allright, no date...just the person I need for advice.
I ventured on to POF last night. Not tooting my own horn, but I can't keep up w/ the messages!! Yes I know, half of them are freaks. But there may be a few decent ones there, who knows. I just did it for shits and giggles, to see what would happen.
So about your IM thing, you don't like that? You like the immediate phone call?? Or the immediate hang out? I'm not really set on 'rules' (course, i don't know what the rules are, as I mentioned earlier). I really don't mind the IM thing, with the right person. I was 'chatting' with 2 decent sounding guys. One if which I expect to hear from (actually he just IMd).
So here i go...wish me luck....am I nuts??
Re: Thank God for the freaks of the world! no date: HEY SOUNDS LIKE YOUR HAVING FUN!!
No immediate hanging out though! get the cheap throwaway cheap cell phone!! talk to these/.this guy for a while like 2 day's or whatever you feel is a comfortable enough time to "figure them out" listen to what they say VERY closely any BS. innuendo and you should be out of there! it's a bad sign. ask the usual questions about how he feels about kids {listen closely here"> you don't want some pedo using you to get to your kids {yes that does happen} so screen for this as best you can! after you feel reasonably safe with this person arrange to meet him in public bring a friend along and have him/ her sitting at another table watching you for a while if everything is cool with you signal your friend that it's ok to leave or NOT! I really think talking to prospective dates on the phone rules any other types of communication save for face to face but it's just not safe enough under the conditions to do that right away! I'm a gambler by nature but these stakes are just to high for my liking... ask some pointed questions about past relationships this person may have had and listen to voice inflection THIS give's a lot of secrets away if you know what to listen for! so here's what I listen for and these are all red flags
NO innuendo PERIOD! [inappropriate">
artful avoidance of questions asked {a big one}
lots of excuses as to why his other relationships didn't work out
talks about ex in a way that removes all blame from him for the breakup
life seems to revolve around drinking...{my turn off} add your own turn offs here!
BE FRIGGIN CAREFULL!!!
these are what I have used in the past and I must say it seems to weed out the freaks! but remember the smarter they are the more tricky they can be. the one thing I have to stress is keep your kids out of the loop for as long as you can because you just can't be carefull enough these days
this is optional, at the risk of sounding parranoid try to carry mace or pepper spray because you never know I'm a guy so I don't but I'll give you a story that happened to me some years ago..
I was helping this guy build a studio for recording we worked rather well together he seemed cool and after the long days woork he invited me to tag along with him to get a couple of drinks I said ok sounds good [I was 20 and the drinking agae was raised to 21 that year so I was illegal} but so what.. I wasn't on my 19th birthday! [oyyy Ct!} anyway it was getting late and he was to drive me back to my house here's what happened....
I gave him directions to my house he passed my house and pulled into a park that wasn't lit or anything and I said hey joe what the hell is going on you passed my house and now we're parked here what's up? he said well I was wondering if you would mind if I gave you a BJ. I said YA I would mind!! {gross} he persisted I said what part of NO don't you understand!} this went on for about 5 min. I was getting pissed by now and he was getting frustrated....oh ohhh! so he opens a door on the console of the car {glove box in the middle of the front seat} and there it is a .38 cal. handgun! shit! I thought fast if I run he might shoot so I thought I should just stay calm and play it cool.. so I said to him ya big deal joe what ? are you trying to say your going to force me to have sex at gun point! he had no answer I then said hey joe if anything happens to me my parents know I was with you all day so if you want to lose your studio and spend a bunch of years behind bars just f'ing go for it hell I won't even fight it {bingo} he finally drove my scared ass home end of story......................bring mace dear!
Re: Thank God for the freaks of the world! no date: note..
just play it safe please!!
I have more stories of real life weird things that happened to me I just don't know where to post them on this board if you thought the bj story was scary I have one that involved a lesbien with I think bi polar and also included a .38 cal. I have had an interesting life to say the least!!!
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