Summer Vacation Cherry: My ex has decided that he wants the kids for summer. He doesn't know how long or anything and he agreed that he would find his own daycare etc.
I just dont think sending my kids 900+ miles away for an extended period of time to him and his family would be in their best interest. Plus they are so little.
What do you guys think??
Re: Summer Vacation YellowJacket: I don't have children so I'm not sure what my input will be worth but here goes...
To me it would be all about what kind of parent he is. Will his influence with them undo any good parenting that you've done? Will they start to see dad as summer vacation where they can do whatever they want and mom as the "mean" one for being disciplined? If so, I'd fight him on this. Otherwise I'd take input from the kids and see what they'd like to do.
Re: Summer Vacation Plucky: My daughter did and will do again - this sort of thing during the summer. When she was little, it was tough...she was missing me most of the time. As she gold older, it got easier. But, like YJ says, it depends on the environment that the kids are going to be in. You and the babies have to be comfortable with it.
Re: Summer Vacation Cherry: [quote author=YellowJacket link=topic=28576.msg277804#msg277804 date=1147098260">
To me it would be all about what kind of parent he is.
1. Will his influence with them undo any good parenting that you've done?
2. Will they start to see dad as summer vacation where they can do whatever they want and mom as the "mean" one for being disciplined?
If so, I'd fight him on this. Otherwise I'd take input from the kids and see what they'd like to do.
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Yes and Yes. They are just now starting to settle down into their new home. Im getting their behavior under control but I would have to start all over if I sent them away. And honestly he isn't the greatest of dads. Doesn't brush their teeth/bathe them when he would have them for just the weekend. And I wont tell you what a fight it was to get him to give them their allergy meds. Stupid and carless most of the time. And they dont set any rules.
How do i say no?? I would like them to have a relationship with him, I just dont trust him really.
Re: Summer Vacation sparks: Can you start of slow and work your way up? Instead of the whole summer what about 2 or 3 weeks this year and as the kids get older extend the time. I would just tell my ex that I am not comfortable with the arrangement and try to be flexible.
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