Re: I Wonder if Her New Life is as Great as I think it is sosad05: Bdad...I understand how you feel. While, I know the "right" thing to do is to focus on MY life, its so much easier said than done. My thoughts are that if she cheated on you and went to him, she still has issues and eventually she'll have problems with him. People who cheat have issues within themselves. If she is having problems, she'll NEVER let you see it. I know my xh situation appears so good, but I know I'll never see the bad. Just as Ill NEVER let him see any of my pain either. Good luck. Your not alone!
Re: I Wonder if Her New Life is as Great as I think it is watwat226: Hell no!
I think you're right trapped. Thinking that they feel the same pains that we do seems somewhat comforting. Don't you think?
If I can make myself believe that my ex is also miserable and hurting inside like I am it makes all the difference. But I don't want it to get to the point where I give myself false hopes and such.
So just thinking about it in that way is enough for me.
Re: I Wonder if Her New Life is as Great as I think it is trapped: I know how you feel. Ex seems so happy w/o me..like it was the best thing he ever did when he left me (again). Why am I not good enough often comes to mind. If only I were not sick, or more fun, or prettier or whatever it may be, maybe he would be happier with me than without me. But you know what...I think its a front sometimes. That at the end of the day hes not any happier. That he secretly misses me and has regrets.
Is it bad of us to hope thats the case?
I Wonder if Her New Life is as Great as I think it is rjack0612: Every now and then I still get angry. I look at my own situation and get upset because it seems to me that she is living the good life and I am still stuck in this pit of lonliness, etc.. I wonder if her "new" life is going as good as I sometimes think it is?
Re: I Wonder if Her New Life is as Great as I think it is sudboy: [quote author=BDAD link=topic=28586.msg277885#msg277885 date=1147108781">
Every now and then I still get angry. I look at my own situation and get upset because it seems to me that she is living the good life and I am still stuck in this pit of lonliness, etc.. I wonder if her "new" life is going as good as I sometimes think it is?
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It ain't going as good as you might think it is -- and even if it is right now, it won't last.
I've seen the grass -- and the grass is not greener.
