Re: Does this relationship stand a chance? lcat: Thanks for the advice, guess you confirmed some of my fears 2be. But honesty was what i needed.
Shocked I wish you speedy recovery? Seems like i will be there myself soon. Think i am already way too involved not to let this thing play out.
lcat
Re: Does this relationship stand a chance? 2be: I'm not saying it will NEVER work. But right now both of you are dooming a relationship that may have potential merely because one or both of you will be rushing into it. Although I too feel the anxiety and pull of time as it slides by me, patience here is what could turn this into something wonderful.
Just be there for him and let him deal with his baggage. Depending on who he is and how much effort he puts into it, it could be a short time, or it could be years. The decision to stick around and wait to see if he is the man you are looking for AFTER all of his growth is totally up to you.
But there is no reason to not be his cautious friend. Good luck.
Re: Does this relationship stand a chance? corkscrew: Yeah, if you're both not emotionally available to possibilities, it is probably doomed.
Re: Does this relationship stand a chance? chaotic: Has he told you he is not ready for more? If not, then his actions or words are probably enough to indicate that he is not ready. I think the above posters are right. If you are looking for more and he is not ready, then it can not work.
Dont help this guy hoping that when he heals he will still want you there. It may happen, but dont count on it. That may only lead to more hurt to you.
Do help him recover. You have been where he is now. As have we all. He needs friends more than anything else. Recognize that and be his friend. But prepare yourself to only be his friend when he is healed. If it turns into more after that, then great, otherwise at least you both made a friend. And you can feel better knowing that you helped someone cope while they were going thru a tough spot in life.
