Re: lonely chaotic: I think I took up becoming a whore (ok, I could not charge for sex). Perhaps not the most healthy thing, but it sure is fun.
Wont really help with the loneliness, but....
Shocked is right though. Start doing the things you enjoyed but may have given up during your marriage. For me it was working on my jeep, four-wheeling, rock climbing, mountain biking, etc... It has gotten me out of the house and to stop thinking about the loneliness. All of my friends are married or in serious relationships. But when we are out doing stuff, I feel fine being around them.
Though, I still have not gone to a movie or to a restaraunt, or to a bar by myself. I just cant seem to bring myself up to it.
Re: lonely 2be: I threw myself into cycling again. I mountain bike and road bike every weekend now. I mean, I was into it beforehand, but now I can stay out all day if I want. I also started drawing again. Instead of sitting in front of the TV, I turn on some good music, sit at my kitchen table and draw the night away.
For me it's weird. I'm lonely but I'm not. I'm fine being on my own. I dont NEED anyone there but when that music or the TV is turned off, the apartment is SO quiet.
Re: lonely the jude: First few weeks are really tough, I agree. I started to do a lot of volunteer work for individuals that are mentally challenged. I met a great group of individuals. I also started to volunteered for a soup kitchen. Great way to get out of the house and meet new people, but the best part...helping others that aren't as fortunate...helps to put things in perspective.
Re: lonely freshstart: Hi Eeyore....
You are not alone I am feeling and experiencing the exact same things you mention... although it's been like 2 years of living like this for me. it sucks more than you know. The pain from the past relationship eases after time although comes back to haunt you every so often... but the feeling of being alone is the feeling that really sticks... don't let it get to you.
Just keep at it and try to meet new people... not everyone will turn into an instant friend.. actually not many at all because everyone seems to have their own life to live especially at our age...
it's only been a few weeks for you... I'm going on 100 + weeks of only going to work and to get groceries. oh man... I suck! ... don't be like me.
Re: lonely Maximus: I am dreading what you are feeling, as it will soon happen to me too. I go home from Iraq to buy the home that I was originally going to buy b4 the divorce. I will keep my job here until its furnished. Once I am home for good, I too will be in the same situation of loneliness as you are. I suggest that you take up a hobby that you were never able to do while you were married......also, get a dog, they always know when you are sad, and are always willing to cheer you up.
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