Re: tired of pretending corkscrew: ALL OF YOU. Being alone doesn't make you a loser or a hermit or anything bad. Put a twist on it and see it for what it really is. How many people have the strength to be alone and flourish? Is it better to saddle yourself into a meaningless relationship just for the sake of "having someone?" Or is it better to spend some time alone and become someone who can stand alone?
And don't let anyone make you feel bad about having a f*ckbuddy. Those are oftentimes the most rewarding relationships in the world.
Re: tired of pretending jillieb44: Well, seeing how I didn't date much and didn't marry til I was 29...I know what being alone is. I married because I wanted a companion in life, a partner, etc. What I got was a passive aggressive AH who ignored me, which is lonelier than hell. And now that I'm over him, I want a partner and companion who loves me. I have a lot of love to give someone.
I don't regret my FB at all. I broke things off with him when I thought I found someone -- someone who subsequently broke my heart again.
Jillie
Re: tired of pretending Lumpy: [quote author=corkscrew link=topic=28621.msg278586#msg278586 date=1147205554">
ALL OF YOU. Being alone doesn't make you a loser or a hermit or anything bad. Put a twist on it and see it for what it really is. How many people have the strength to be alone and flourish? Is it better to saddle yourself into a meaningless relationship just for the sake of "having someone?" Or is it better to spend some time alone and become someone who can stand alone?
And don't let anyone make you feel bad about having a f*ckbuddy. Those are oftentimes the most rewarding relationships in the world.
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Words of wisdom. Whenever I see lines like "how can I live without him/her" I think of something that I think JimB said here. Remember who you were before you met your ex. Were you not a basically happy capable person? Find that person again.
Re: tired of pretending jillieb44: The happy capable person is drowning in overwork, lack of sleep and is insanely in need of some personal ALONE time.
Jillie
Re: tired of pretending corkscrew: JB,
You sound like a very strong woman. It just seemed to me that you were defending your f*ckbuddy to us. It shouldn't be necessary. Regardless of whether your guys take up sexual trapeze its no one's business but your own. You know what he does for you and there's nothing wrong with finding temporary comfort with someone. I'd bet you that almost everyone on this board has done it.
Sounds like you're just going through a rough patch. Keep your chin up.
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