Re: Standing knee deep in a river...... WhiskeyGirl: Thanks guys :)
Corky...I know EXACTLY what you are talking about...my marriage was much the same. Its different this time though...cuz its me thats miles away :-\
And Bob...yeah....I don't really know if I am worried about whether or not he is "the one".....maybe I am and don't realize it...maybe I feel this distance because I'm not sure if I'm even ready to find "the one" ya know?
Wow..this isn't making much more sense than the first post is it? ::)
[quote author=Mooneyes link=topic=28624.msg278303#msg278303 date=1147175545">
I think i understand. and I think it takes time for our bodies to be able to absorb the water again. [/quote">
Yeah...this makes perfect sense to me....but I guess I'm starting to wonder how much time? Its been over 2 yrs. Hard to explain....its not like I am desperate for a relationship....it would just be nice to feel a flicker of that excitment I used to feel in the beginning of relationships....just so I know I'm even capable of feeling it......
Wow...I am a mess eh? LOL
And fre.......you gonna be wearing that cowboy hat? ;D
Anyway thanks again guys...I'll figure this out eventually I guess :-\
Re: Standing knee deep in a river...... hudson: [quote author=The Poster formerly known as whiskeygirl link=topic=28624.msg278290#msg278290 date=1147157140">
I was less "lonely" when I was alone......
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If that's the case, i'd say this guy ain't the one. Maybe you're with him for other reasons, maybe you're not over your ex, maybe you're waiting for someone who makes you feel the same way inside that your ex did when you met him. Just some thoughts. I'm sorta going through the same thing. So I can relate.
bye
Re: Standing knee deep in a river...... chaotic: Right after my wife left, I went thru a phase where all I wanted was to date and be with some one. This lead to me joining internet dating sites and trying to meet people at clubs and crap like that. Everyone that I went out with (even if we went out a few times over a month), I just felt empty. The only excitement was the initial flirting and such.
I have started letting myself enjoy being alone. This has helped me immensly. At least now when I go out with someone, I feel more comfortable. Heck there have been a few that I even had the desire to see again.
So I totally understand what you are saying and it was not until reading your post that I really understood what was happening to me.
Re: Standing knee deep in a river...... bluskygrl: WG,
I was just feeling the same type of thing. I thought I was ready to date but even the whole natural up and down and in and out of that river felt so cold. Now two bad experiences later I am ready to never swim again.
Getting out and meting people again has left me in a much more lonely and hurting state than I was even during the divorce. Somehow the prospect of something made it worse than none.
Blu
