Re: i'm back. walkingzombie: Exactly Br493,
I couldn't have said it better myself,
she's insecure and trust me she will need attention.
Re: i'm back. hurtnconfused: I just want to say that I am so sorry you are going through all of this again. (((hugs)))
Re: i'm back. 2be: [quote author=walkingzombie link=topic=29025.msg283003#msg283003 date=1147974005">
No, no!, ok, i'm sorry i disagree with 2B on this one
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You disagree with ME????? Why, I NEVER.......
:D
Re: i'm back. walkingzombie: well, yah, but everything else you said I agree with... :P
Re: i'm back. croutonic: whew - lotsa good stuff here! ok, one by one:
miz zombie: you're absolutely right, she IS feeling guilty. but she said all of this stuff BEFORE she decided to break it off. Less than a week before. Maybe that was still guilt, maybe it wasn't. I don't know. All I know is that whatever she felt wasn't enough, and that I deserve better.
We actually had that talk a few weeks ago, when I noticed that she was starting to pull away. I told her that I deserved to be loved without doubt or hesitation, and she said I was right. Who knows - maybe that's what brought this on. I still feel that, even after all that's happened since then.
ww: you're right, i think i was her rebound. she didn't have the time to adjust and figure stuff out like I did after my breakup with my wife. she said i was everything to her that her husband was not: attentive, kind, caring, funny, intellectually stimulating and sexually attractive. That's what makes it so hard - it's like watching someone shoot themselves in the foot and being powerless to stop it.
I know there's nothing I can do. I'm planning on telling her that she can't come back to me unless she's signed divorce papers, and I'm planning on telling her that I think she's being stupid. But that's about as far as I'm willing to go. Anything else will be counter-productive. Some people just need to learn the hard way, I guess.
BR493: I'm definitely not going to be her "shoulder" for if/when her marriage goes south AGAIN. I've been there, I've done that, and now I've got the scars to prove it. (I also have the shirt ) ;D
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